(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Advice…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I would flat out tell her “They’re coming and my mom is paying for them.”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Agree with PP!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not sure how else to handle it beside braving the fit.. or just throwing the Rehearsal Dinner yourself, but that might not make things better either.. If she doesn’t want to be responsible for anything more than that immediate guest list, I’m not sure you could demand she expand it… but I don’t see why she’d turn down an offer to cover those guests.

Could it be a financial issue you’re not aware of? What about doing a cocktail party instead of a dinner, which might cost less and expand the guest list without increasing the cost. Or would it be easier to have your FH speak with her about it?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would stick to your guns on this one – absolutely those mentioned SHOULD BE invited.

I would probably have your fiance talk to her, explain that it is important to have all of those people included and that if necessary, you’d cover the cost of the additional people.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It would be incredibly rude not to invite wedding party spouses!!! I mean what about the parents of the ring bearer/flower girl?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could you maybe convince her to get food that isn’t serving specific so it’s not like you’re paying for x number of people? Like pizza maybe? I don’t know if this would help at all.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Invite them and pick up the tab for the “extras” if she absolutely refuses. Or, find the etiquette on-line where it says who is to be invited and see if that changes her mind at all.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

I would say “Thank you for offering to host the rehearsal dinner, but we have decided we will throw it.” Then invite who you want. It can be as simple as a pizza party at a house nearby.

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