Post # 1
I’m starting to plan out a rehearsal dinner with my parents. They would like to host it at a greek restaurant and have a group style dinner (they offer a variety of platters for groups $38pp) and have bottles of wine on the table.
We’re having about 25 people. There are some big drinkers in the group.
How do you make it clear to guests that only wine will be provided? On the invite? At the dinner??
If people want to order drinks they can but I would like to try and keep the rehearsal dinner tame and I think if people did start ordering cocktails that my parents would just end up paying for them. Thanks for the advice!
Post # 3
We are only providing beer and wine out our dress rehearsal dinner. We have instructed the restaurant and their servers will take care of informing the guests that what is included and what they have to pay for. I was pleased with this idea. They host group dinners all the time there so they know how to handle it graciously. They said once people heard that they would have to pay for their own hard liquor, they opt for beer/wine. People love FREE!
Post # 4
I dont think you need to tell them. When they see the wine at the table, they should realize its wine only. And if they order something else from the staff, it will be the staff’s job to inform them that it will be at their cost.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t bother saying anything! If people are determined to get trashed at your rehearsal, they’ll do it on wine! I would instruct the bartenders either to decline service to your party or to get the bartender to let them know it’s a cash bar at their expense!
Post # 7
don’t say anything at all. let the restaurant deal with it. Make sure they know they are only to serve wine. Or, you could simply could have a few bottles of wine on the tables already.
Post # 8
@koukla1111: they shoudl figure it out, or someone can just say, wine is included drink up. and they’ll figure out if they want something else to pay it themselves
Post # 9
We are also not having hard liquor at our rehearsal, and I’m leaving it up to the waitstaff to tell people if they order it. I might also make little menus for the tables, and I’d just put “beer, wine, soda, coffee and tea” on the menu. I’m sure everyone will be gracious about it, we are providing a full open bar the next day and I don’t want the rehearsal to be crazy!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
@koukla1111: I don’t think you really need to mention it. I don’t believe it is typical for alcohol to be hosted at the rehearsal dinner.
You just need to explain to the restaurant that if anyone orders something other than the provided wine, that they will need to open up a separate tab for them. I went to a rehearsal like this and it was just fine.
Post # 11
Thanks so much for the info! This has helped me a lot!