(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Decor – FMIL’s Jurisdiction or Mine?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Who is making the RD decor decisions for your wedding?
    You. : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Your FMIL. : (25 votes)
    63 %
    We're taking the RD venue as is and not decorating. : (11 votes)
    28 %
    Someone else. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Is Future Mother-In-Law paying for it? If so I would let her have it. You have enough to think about before your wedding. Unless she is making it really offensive, ugly etc I’d let it slide. If your Fiance is really upset about it let him say something to her. Why stir the pot ya know?

    Post # 4
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    10218 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I totally agree, if she is paying for it, it should be her decision…

    Post # 5
    Member
    1981 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If she’s paying for it, let her do it. In fact, I’m glad it’s one less thing I have to worry about.

    Post # 6
    Member
    925 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My Future Mother-In-Law is paying for it, so whatever she decides is fine with me.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1209 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Honestly I have no idea. But I am just thinking about other events and usually the host takes care of the menu and decor. That being said, the party is in your honor and I would think that your input would be appreciated. In her defense maybe she thinks that she is doing you a favor by taking care of it without bothering you about it since you are planning a wedding.

    Post # 9
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Traditionally the rehearsal dinner is paid by the FI’s side of the family. If they are paying for it that means they get to decorate and so forth. So that you can just come and enjoy and not be stressed out. Congrats!

    Post # 10
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we’re having it at my fi’s parents house. as far as i know there won’t be decorating, just food. and i don’t know what food. but i don’t care, i trust them, and i don’t want to make any more decisions! plus, she knows me. she had to pick colors for flowers for temple the other day, and she chose pink for me! so i’m not worried about anything.

    Post # 11
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    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    honestly, I knew very little about the Rehearsal Dinner before I showed up, and by then I didn’t care almost no matter what, ha

    Post # 12
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have always been under the impression that the rehearsal dinner is sort of like a gift from the groom’s parents. Subsequently I believe that the decisions should be left up to them. If you were paying for it yourself, it would be a different story. But this is their “gift”, so let them give you what they see fit 🙂

    Post # 13
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    1313 posts
    Bumble bee

    We are not decorating. I didn’t know you were supposed to?

    Although ours is just a cookout in FMIL’s backyard, so no decorations really needed anyway

    Post # 14
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    1569 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    Not sure why Fiance was so shocked, I mean, it’s the rehearsal dinner, not the wedding. It’s not that big a deal what it looks like!

    It hadn’t occurred to me that decorating for the rehearsal dinner was a “thing.” Future In-Laws picked a nice, swank little Italian restaurant near our venue and we have the whole upstairs loft reserved. I can’t imagine any decorating is warranted.

    I agree with the others, don’t worry about the decor for the rehearsal dinner and just let Future Mother-In-Law do her thing.

    Post # 15
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    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Hosts and Hostesses usually do all the decor.  Just like your Maid/Matron of Honor would set up, design, and buy everything for your shower.  Your Future Mother-In-Law and your FSMIL/FFIL should decide everything for the Rehearsal Dinner.  It doesn’t have to match your wedding ideas anyway, it’s a party thrown by them for you.

    Post # 16
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It wouldn’t even occur to me that someone other than myself would be making the decisions about decor or food for the rehearsal dinner…but I guess we are doing our own thing in all respects. A burden and a blessing!

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