- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I never imagined a large wedding, I always thought I’d have a nice small wedding of maybe 75 ppl, Well as of right now, it looks like I’ll have a 75 person rehearsal dinner. Yikes!
So we are sticking to tradition and my fiance’s parents are paying for and therefore planning the rehearsal dinner. They are from large families and feel they need to invite all of the out of town family members to the rehearsal dinner. I’m just letting it go and will just be there when they tell me to be there.
The dilemma I’m having is this… I come from a very small family, 2 people in fact (including myself) so the idea of a wedding was always a bit sad because I thought it would be a big reminder of why I had such a small family and that those people couldn’t be here to help me celebrate. It eventually dawned on me that weddings are not about lose but about gaining… mostly a new family. I realized I would be gaining this whole other family through my fiance. In addtion, my family has recently grown through other marriages and I’ve gained my own new family whom I adore. We also have a lot of very close family friends who are like family. I wanted to recognize all of this at the rehearsal dinner and just say who gratiful I am to have the big family I always dream of and how excited I was that they could all be there to celebratewith us. However, I expected it would just be family and wedding party. This sentiment is not something I wish to share in front of 70 people who I don’t really know and also seems a bit intimate and inapproriate for the audience.
So my question is this, I’d like to express to those 10 or so new family members in my life how much I love them and how happy I am that they are a part of our lives but won’t do that in front of 70 random people. Whats the best way to share this with everyone but not at the rehearsal? hold a small brunch the morning of the rehearsal dinner? write a letter to each? other ideas?