Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law just decided she might want to have our rehearsal dinner at their family lake house. Now don’t get me wrong… the lake house is beautiful and right down the street from where chapel is. But we were hoping to have a family BBQ day after wedding at lake house.
I am upset because it’s our REHEARSAL DINNER! I was hoping for it to be at a restaurant and not at a house.
My fiance is not understanding my emotions about this. He is saying that it will be a nice event… catered food and whatnot… I am picturing it to be just any other family dinner if we have it at the lake house.. This is going to be my one and only rehearsal dinner and he is just not understanding this.
I am not high maintenance in any aspect…but why do I feel like I am a horrible person if I tell his Mom that I don’t want to have the rehearsal dinner at the family lake house?
Bees… please please help… word of encouragement and advice are much needed!!
If there is a silver lining to this situation I really need to see it!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want to do the rehearsal dinner there if you’re planning another event there a couple of days later. However, I don’t think having a rehearsal dinner at someone’s home is a bad idea. We’re hoping to have ours at FI’s parents’ home and have it catered.
Post # 4
I’m with your Fiance. The rehearsal dinner is traditionally hosted by the groom’s parents and as the host they get to decide what they want to do. Be grateful they are hosting the dinner , instead of having to deal with FIL’s who aren’t stepping up to the plate like a lot of brides on this site.
If you want to have another func tion there the day after the wedding, and you are in charge of planning it, you can make it totally different from the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 5
I concur with Jules. I would be grateful if anyone would host the rehearsal dinner rather than us paying for it ourselves . Does Future Mother-In-Law know about the post-wedding barbecue plans you have? Maybe if you let her know about that she might want to change the venue for the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
I’ve been to two rehearsal dinners hosted either on-site or at someone’s house. They are really quite a bit more fun because they are so much more laid-back and homey-feeling.