- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I need some advice and to vent about our rehearsal dinner. My FI’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, something I completely appreciate. We are having the wedding in my FI’s hometown of Philadelphia although we live in New York. While we were in town a couple of months ago, we stopped restaurants to inquire about their private rooms for the rehearsal dinner. It didn’t occur to me until afterward that we were kind of overstepping by selecting the location so I emailed my FI’s mother all the information I obtained (menu’s, pricing, availability, etc) and what I thought about each place. Because her side of the family is Italian, I mentioned that I thought it would be a nice touch to have the rehearsal dinner at an Italian restaurant. She really like that and began doing her own research. She found a place that was close to the venue and had a private room. Perfect! We went there for dinner on a Friday at 6:30–the exact time we would be having the rehearsal dinner.
Here’s the issue: we asked to see the private room and were informed that the date we were looking for was booked, but they told us they had another option. The restaurant has an alcove on the main dining floor that they use for large parties. This is an authentic Italian restaurant, complete with ceramatic tiles, high ceilings, and exposed brick (re: very noisy). The alcove is right by the kitchen and bathrooms, contributing an extra amount of noise. I really like the restaurant, but my gut reaction was that this just wouldn’t work for a rehearsal dinner. We had to speak up at dinner to hear each other and we were in a small booth. How are we going to be able to hear the speeches?
We stopped by the other locations I had mentioned and there was another Italian restaurant that did have a private room and it was really gorgeous. But my FI’s father said it was boring and lacked auththenticity.
So…it looks like they are going to go with the noisy restaurant and I’m really bummed. I love rehearsal dinners. I love hearing the family stories and hearing the kind words spoken. I mentioned my issues with my Fiance and he said that this is the one choice his parents have and we need to respect that and that he will talk to them about trying to partition off the room. I know it’s a minor snag in the grand scheme of things. Is it too passive aggressive of me to recommend renting a microphone and speakers? The only thing I really care about is having the ability to hear. Ok. Time to let it go….