(Closed) Rehearsal dinner drama…two months out.

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 46
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why don’t you just pay the difference for the “extra” spouses?

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

TBH I prefer more low key casual rehersals. Everyone is going to be dolled up and fancy the next day, the rehersal is nice to just relax with these people before the big day. I think just ordering pizza and beer would be amazing haha.

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I would rather there be no rehearsal dinner than be forced to attend a rehearsal dinner without my spouse, especially if I had to travel to the wedding. I would show up for the rehearsal and fulfill that duty but would decline the dinner. It’s just rude. And it’s super werid to me that the immediate family isn’t invited. wow. Find a cheaper place that can accommodate everyone. Who cares if you have 50 people at your dinner what’s so wrong with spending time with family and friends?

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

So wild guess here that you’re NOT inviting out of towners to attend the rehersal dinner…?

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Given how your in-laws feel, I’d probably thank them kindly for their offer of a rehearsal dinner, but decline it. 

Schedule the rehearsal with just your wedding party and let them know you will be having pizza, beer/wine, or a barbeque at your house after- let them bring their significant others to that. This shouldn’t be that stressful- no one needs this before the wedding. I’m willing to bet that pizza/barbeque/something casual with the people who are particiapting in yoyr wedding will be one of the nicest memories you have. A fancy dinner mired in stress won’t be.

Good luck!

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I get that she’s a pain- but keep in mind, this is your future sister wether you’re getting along or not. If I were you, I’d be the bigger person and let her come. Its a crappy situation and I get it. Like many PP’s, I’ve never been to a rehearsal dinner where family & spouses were not inveited to rehearsal dinner.

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

For our rehearsal dinner, We are going to a pizza joint in Orlando, “renting a room” (which is actually free!), ordering a bunch of salad, pizza’s and pitchers of soda/beer. Simple. Stress free!

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

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scissorgirl :  I don’t want to threadjack, but I don’t understand this sentiment. I would feel fairly insulted if someone implied that my husband and I are not independent people and that I cannot attend social events without him. Anyone who refuses to leave the house without their SO is being a gigantic baby, imho. 

That being said, I understand that it’s different with weddings, especially if people have travelled. No one wants to abandon their partner in a hotel room for the night. But it sounds like that’s not OP’s case.

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