Post # 1
Hello Bees! I need some advice… I am sending my Future Mother-In-Law an address list for the rehearsal dinner, and I’m a little confused as to who should be invited. We are having a small wedding, so I don’t want the rehearsal dinner to be huge, but I feel uncomfortable leaving my honorary bridesmaids off the list. These girls will be helping out in various ways on the wedding day even though they aren’t walking in the ceremony. My parents disagree with me, and say that only people who will be directly involved in the ceremony should be invited to the Rehearsal Dinner. Bees, what should I do?!
Post # 3
I would invite them. Since they are helping you out with the wedding, this is a way to thank them for everything they are doing.
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: I agree! So glad that someone else thinks so, too. Now how do I break this to the parents?
Post # 5
WELL WE BOTH HAVE A LOT OF FAMILY COMING IN FROM OUT OF TOWN SO AFTER THE REHEARSAL WITH THE BRIDAL PARTY, WE ARE TAKING ALL THE GUEST FROM OUT OF TOWN FOR DINNER…NOTHING EXPENSIVE JUST LIKE A BUFFET….SO I WOULD SAY YES INVITE THEM.
Post # 6
I said yes and I think it would be a really sweet gesture to show your appreciation, but I guess it sort of depends on who is paying? If your Future Mother-In-Law is paying (I assume since you are sending her your list?) the I would ask her how she feels about it. It’s sort of up to her if she wants to pay for the extra people!
Post # 7
I think if these are people who have contributed to putting together the wedding, you should invite them. 🙂
Post # 8
Are they being invited to the rehersal? My rule was anyone who needs to be at the rehersal is invited to the Rehearsal Dinner as well as their partners. We had a welcome BBQ the day before for all out of towners and some locals. Therefore, I would tend to say I would invite them and if your parents or Future Mother-In-Law have an issue just say that they need to come to the rehersal and it’s rude to thus not invite them to dinner witht he rest of the rehersal crew. If it is a cost issue, and Future Mother-In-Law insists 2 additional people will be prohibitive, pay for their meals yourself.
Post # 9
Since it really ins’t your party but is being hosted for you, I’d say you should let Future Mother-In-Law decide. How many are there? It would be a nice thing to do.
Post # 10
@slicey19: I agree with this. If they are at the rehearsal, they have to be invited to the Rehearsal Dinner. Otherwise, it’s up to you, the groom and the host who ‘extra’ is invited.
Post # 11
Unless they are a part of the actual rehursing I dont think they need to be invited. If they helped with the wedding alot then give them a gift like you would for your bridesmaids or soemthing. I dont think you need to grow the guest list for the Rehearsal Dinner .