Post # 1
We are having a fairly small wedding (125ish) and 95% of the guests will be coming from out of town-so maybe smaller than we think. Anyways, who all do we invite to the rehearsal dinner? Obviously we have our immediate families and people in the wedding…but anyone else? My grandmother will be coming into town with my Aunts/Uncles so do I have to invite them because I am inviting her?
We are already around 35-40 people considering their guests and I don’t want to have half the wedding there! Thanks so much.
Post # 3
I know we’re going to extend the invite to Out of Town guests, but since you have so many, maybe you should limit it to close family and the bridal party/people involved in the wedding?
Post # 4
You do not have to invite everyone from out of town.
Traditionally the rehearsal dinner included immediate family, grandparents, and anyone who had a role in the wedding and their spouse,SO, or plus one.
Post # 5
Both ways are completely acceptable.
We invited all Out of Town relatives (most of whom were arriving the day before,) and the usual Bridal Party, immediate family, and dates. I’ve been to other RDs where either way was done.
Post # 6
We had the same situation that you do- 95% of wedding from Out of Town. We invited immediate family, grandparents and Bridal Party and their SO’s, or +1. We had 32 people total and it was great.
Post # 7
Ours was like yours, vast majority Out of Town. If we invited everyone it would have been a small wedding!
And since it’s not often both sides of our family get together we really wanted it to be just the immediate family. So we had parents, siblings, wives, kids, my grandmother (who’s the only one still alive) and Maid/Matron of Honor & her husband who is also a Groomsmen.
Post # 8
We’re inviting the officiant and his wife. They assign a ‘coordinator’ at the church, do we invite her and her husband?
We really can’t afford to invite all out of towners because that would be the entire guest list (because the only in town is my family). So we’re just trying to find a good cut off.
Do you think it would be good to do family & bridal party and then let people know we will be at the hotel bar afterwards if they want to visit? We want to make sure we have enough time with everyone during the weekend, but many of the out of towners live where we do now…just not where the wedding is. So I think it shouldn’t be too difficult.
Post # 9
I’m in a similar situation – we decided to do a cocktail hour at a local bar insead of a formal rehersal dinner. We are not really having a bridal party either – so that sort of solution works for us. I think your idea of getting the word out that you’ll be at the hotel bar is fine – people will probably buy you drinks even!
I don’t think all of your guests will really expect you to buy all of their meals for the whole weekend (that was something I grappled with, personally).