(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette??

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know we’re going to extend the invite to Out of Town guests, but since you have so many, maybe you should limit it to close family and the bridal party/people involved in the wedding?

Post # 4
47423 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You do not have to invite everyone from out of town.

Traditionally the rehearsal dinner included immediate family, grandparents, and anyone who had a role in the wedding and their spouse,SO, or plus one.

Post # 5
4332 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Both ways are completely acceptable. 

We invited all Out of Town relatives (most of whom were arriving the day before,) and the usual Bridal Party, immediate family, and dates. I’ve been to other RDs where either way was done.

Post # 6
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had the same situation that you do- 95% of wedding from Out of Town.  We invited immediate family, grandparents and Bridal Party and their SO’s, or +1. We had 32 people total and it was great. 

Post # 7
2140 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ours was like yours, vast majority Out of Town. If we invited everyone it would have been a small wedding!

And since it’s not often both sides of our family get together we really wanted it to be just the immediate family. So we had parents, siblings, wives, kids, my grandmother (who’s the only one still alive) and Maid/Matron of Honor & her husband who is also a Groomsmen.

Post # 9
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m in a similar situation – we decided to do a cocktail hour at a local bar insead of a formal rehersal dinner.  We are not really having a bridal party either – so that sort of solution works for us.  I think your idea of getting the word out that you’ll be at the hotel bar is fine – people will probably buy you drinks even!

I don’t think all of your guests will really expect you to buy all of their meals for the whole weekend (that was something I grappled with, personally).  

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