Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
im wondering if this is a big deal. Our only option in order to stay in our budget was to have our wedding on a sunday, which is perfectly fine with me. But i left the rehearsal dinner up to my Fiance and his parents. I really had no part in it willingly, and they choose a nice italian place but according to him they would only rent the space out on a friday, so him and his parents went ahead and booked it. I didnt care at first, but now im concerned that not a lot of people will even show up.
The majority of my family and extended family live out of town. I know my parents and grandmother and more then likely my sister and her husband will definitely be there, but im growing concerened that the rest of my family wont attend cause the rehearsal dinner is on a friday night. Im trying to let this minor detail not bother me, but its starting to nag me a little. I mean the majority of my side of the guest list is my family which is like a good 15+ people.
as a guest or a family member from out of town, would you still attend the rehearsal knowing there is a gap day between the dinner and the actual ceremony.
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
Kslim13: I think the most important thing is “Will your wedding party be able to attend”? The rehearsal dinner is supposed to be thank you to the wedding party for thier time and support. There are always situations where one or more attendants may not be able to attend a Friday rehearsal for a Sunday wedding, but if the majority are able to attend, they can coach the others.
When you say you are worried that your out of town family may not be able to attend, what family are you referring to?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Do you know if most guests are arriving on Friday or Saturday? If it were me, I would make every effort to attend, but it would really depend on how far I was coming and which day. You could still get together with those that miss out on the dinner on Saturday, and just do something casual?
Post # 4
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Busy bee
My brother was in a similar situation for his wedding with the gap day. Many of the people were arriving the night of the rehearsal since they were coming from out of town; they came to the restaurant with luggage but it was easily put aside. My brother and his wife gave each out of town guest a little goodie bag, and suggestions for activities to do during the gap day to get to know the city. It was a little more of incentive for them to come out the extra day for the wedding.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Kslim13: I am in the same boat as you, however, I have been fighting tooth and nail to get it switched to Saturday……still working on that one – you can read my post
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/rehersal-dinner-on-fri-or-sa-wedding-on-sunday-night-not-sure-what-to-do/
The reason is and this would be my reason as an out of town guest, it is a another expense that needs to be paid for and because it is on a Friday, I would have to take a day off of work to attend or possibly leave early.
Don’t get me wrong I am all for celebrating a couple, but that is an added burden meaning money I would have to take into account.
The other reason as the soon to be bride that I have with the situation, what do I do now with all the family that does come in on Friday during the day on Saturday now, are we suppose to enterntain them all day? It is one thing to have the events Saturday, but now you are looking at having people come one day early and now need to kinda entertain them during the day. Who gets put in charge of that.
To be honest, most people might not come, its hard enough to come to a wedding on a weekend and not feel like its taking up your whole weekend. My opionion is that it should be Saturday to not put the guests and yourself in a pinch.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
the only reason im not worried about the saturday in between is the fact that i work in a restaurant as a cook at CityWalk orlando, which means i get free passes to both parks. And trust me i got like 25 of them after working for universal for 5 years and never using them. So im basically using that as an incentive… hey, you come friday you get free entry into a place that normally cost 60-80 bucks a person 🙂
i dont get to see my extended family hardly ever anymore and i would be kinda bummed if they only showed up sunday and more then likely everyone will leave monday morning.
i guess im just starting to stress about all the minor details now that im only 5 months out.
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Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
Kslim13: If I was out of town, probably not. I would already be taking Monday off since it’s a Sunday wedding and then I wouldn’t want to travel on Friday also because that would mean another day off.