(Closed) Rehearsal dinner frustrations!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
365 posts
Helper bee

I don’t know much about etiquette, but I have always been under the impression that that is something that the groom’s side is supposed to pay for! Then again, with the way things are these days, people pay for whatever they want now. I hope it all works out for you! A barbeque sounds fun! 

Post # 4
2892 posts
Sugar bee

I think that sounds like a great idea. Leave it to your Fiance and groomsmen and DO NOT get involved. You’re busy enough. 🙂 If he decides he doesn’t want to do it, don’t have a rehearsal dinner. If anyone complains explain you didn’t have the resources or time to plan the wedding AND a rehearsal dinner. Even better, have your Fiance call his family and have him explain the bbq and try to recruit some help. Help costs nothing, just time.

We might not be having a rehearsal dinner. We’re having a 50 person wedding and even that stretched our budget. It’s traditionally the responsibility of the groom’s side of the family so if they want one, they can throw one. Otherwise, it isn’t happening. I heard though the grape vines they were interested but I’m staying hands off on this one. 


Good luck! 🙂

Post # 5
2353 posts
Buzzing bee

I think that sounds like an great solution: it’s off your back and the in hands of the groom’s side (which is where the Rehearsal Dinner is supposed to be – Helloemi is right), but your Fiance won’t be left doing the whole thing himself. 

Post # 6
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

In the same boat over here! Wow I feel for you, like this is the LAST freaking thing I wanted to have to plan. (considering I am also having a late morning wedding- I have to do THIS also??)

When Fiance and I were over his moms house visiting last week she casually said “so… what are you guys doing for a rehearsal dinner?” ummmm…guess we haven’t planned it yet! I just kind of assumed that my Fi’s family could have dealt with it:  two sisters, mother, father, and brothers in law could put together something simple and cute-nothing fancy. The wedding party is small. Just my Maid/Matron of Honor, his best man (Brother in law) and our parents! yikes, I guess there really is something to that old saying about never assuming something… lol

Post # 8
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are just going out for a VERY casual dinner after our rehearsal… probably just to a local pizza place. nothing planned, nothing fancy, nothing expensive

Post # 9
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

DH’s parents generously agreed to pay for the rehearsal dinner (though DH did have to ask them), but they certainly were not going to plan anything.  It definitely was not a priority for me and I left it to the last minute, we ended up finding a Chinese restaurant 5 days before the wedding and it turned out great.  We selected a couple appetizers, a few main course selections and a dessert, they just brought it out family-style.  We ordered a few bottles of wine for the tables.  We decided to do it on a Thursday night (instead of the night before the wedding) and we only included the bridal party, parents, & SOs – total of 20 people.  It turned out really nice, and it was easy peasy, I seriously put next to zero effort into it.  I’d try to do something like that because hosting a party at your home is the last thing you need to be worrying about in the days before your wedding!

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