Post # 1
For those of you having a rehearsal dinner, who are you including on the guest list? My grandmother is hosting and paying for our rehearsal dinner at a very nice country club as her gift to us. She has asked that we keep the list to a minimum, BUT I am pretty sure that she helped write Miss Manners so I know she would want us to include all of the appropriate people. However, somehow my “small” rehearsal dinner list is now up to 60 people! (Almost all of our wedding guests are out of town guests, so we are having a rehearsal dinner after party for everyone that is in town the night before the wedding. This after party will include finger food, drinks, and alcohol.) Currently our rehearsal dinner guest list includes our immediate families, including aunts/uncles, and cousins, the bridal party, and the ministers + their wives. Do I include BM/GMs boy/girlfriends? Of course I’ve included spouses… just not sure what to do with those who are not married. My grandmother has been extremely generous to host the rehearsal dinner for us and I don’t want to go overboard with the guest list… but I feel like it is getting out of control. Any ideas/suggestions?
Post # 3
We only included aunts/uncles if they were parents of wedding party members (one set for each the flower girl & ring bearer), so maybe you can cut some of your aunts, uncles and cousins? I did include boy/girlfriends of the wedding party, and in your case I definitely would since other BM/GM will have their spouses.
Post # 4
Generally, only those involved in the ceremony and their spouses are invited. You need to sit down with your grandmother and discuss the guest list so that you are both on the same page.
Post # 5
My grandmother was the one who wanted to include aunts and uncles. I think that she wanted all of her sons there. Since we are including my aunts and uncles, it is only fair to include Fiance aunts and uncles. My only Bridesmaid or Best Man that is married is actually my soon to be sister in law, so her husband is my FIs brother and is also a Groomsmen. So that is why I am unsure about including the other BMs and GMs SOs. It is amazing how quickly guests lists spiral out of control!
Post # 6
People in wedding party, their husbands or wives, immediate family of the bride and groom, and we did grandparents. Came out to about 35-40 people.
Post # 7
MAN!!! This is a great question! We are having our rehearsal dinner at the host hotel for our out-of-town guest! So of course, we have to invite them!! LOL!! But I hope we don’t get upwards of 60 people! GOODNESS!!
Post # 8
We’re including our wedding party and their SO’s, our parents, grandmothers, my aunt, uncle and cousins (my cousins are in the wedding) and my other cousin (who will hopefully be officiating our ceremony) and her SO. In total we have 25 guests invited to the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 9
Were just doing parents and siblings, weddings party and SOs and grandparents… but yeah Id sit with her and be clear about what it entails to include all these people
Post # 10
This was tough for us too. We had 78 at ours… ridiculous, right?
We invited my aunts and uncles (their kids were part of the wedding), their kiddos, all sets of grandparents, both sets of parents, wedding party and a date for all of them, pastor and his wife (who was also part of the wedding), kids of any in the bridal party (5 kids total), and anyone helping with the wedding (sound, lights, etc.), and our coordinator and her family.
I think (my personal opinion) that you should invite the SO of each person in the wedding.
Post # 11
We are working on our rehearsal dinner guest list right now! I’m trying to keep it as intimate as possible… since our wedding is the complete opposite. Currently we have grandparents, parents, siblings spouses and their children, bridal party and SOs, and our ring bearers and their parents (my cousins). We are considering adding Out of Town relatives, but if we do that there goes intimate!