(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Guest List

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why do you have to invite anyone other then those that are in the wedding party?  I understand the parents of the Ring Bearer and Flower Girl but other then that, they are going to see you at the wedding.  I don’t think the extras are necessary. IMO

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hee 🙂  34 out of 90.  My current count is 45-50 out of 75-80 because Future Mother-In-Law is insisting on inviting all the out of state guests too.  I think she just wanted to have a party with her friends and didn’t realize that out-of-state meant over half the guest list.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

we have exactly 34 ppl too. unfortunately, i think all the wedding party and immediate family has to be invited =(

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding will be 150 people, our rehearsal is 30 people.  I invited the wedding party and their significant others, parents, and grandparents.  Fiance grandma thought aunt and uncles should be invited, but I thought that was crazy!  Why have a wedding then?!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@tall_jenny: I always grew up being told that the rehearsal dinner was for family members (immediate and extended). Knowning that, I had 40 people invited to my rehearsal dinner and I was thankful. Because I didn’t get to speak to any of them at the wedding… we had 150 guests and there was just no time. Seeing that you have 90 people, it might be ok not to invite everyone. But family is family, there’s not need to disclude them just because it’s a lot of people. Just my opinion though.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

80 guests. 50 at the rehearsal dinner! Basically, wedding party, family, and Out of Town guests are coming. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re having 150 guests at the wedding and 70 at the rehearsal dinner.  We invited bridal party and their dates, immediate family and out of town guests.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I know it’s not exactly traditional or formal, but since all of my wedding guests will be travelling for the wedding, we decided to do a Friday night happy hour at a local pub that is walkable to the hotels that everyone will be staying at as well as many good restaurants. 

So, for an hour or two (still undecided), we’ll have drinks and some bar food – everyone is invited.  Afterwards, people can continute to hang out at the bar, or they can figure out their own dinner plans.  I think this will be a much more casual atmosphere that will allow everyone to mingle before the wedding.

I’m having a very small lunch before the rehersal with just my parents, FI’s parents and our siblings – 10 people.

Is it possible to think out of the box at all?  I realize that some families really expect the traditional rehersal dinner so it won’t work for everyone.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wish I could help with some advice, but I’m in the same boat as you – 99 or so guests at the wedding, and 45 will probably be invited to the rehearsal dinner.

I think @lmoss78:‘s happy hour idea is brilliance on a stick! As for me, my Future In-Laws are having our rehearsal dinner at their place, which is about a three minute drive from our venue. We requested that they keep it simple and relaxed, as in pizza & beers, and I think that’s what they’re doing

Hmm. Something is slowly dawning on me. Why do you have to have a rehearsal dinner at all? Is there any way you can skip it completely?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so glad Im not having a rehersal dinner – sounds like even more stress added on to already stressful time.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@d-girl: i’m actually super excited about the rehearsal dinner- a lot less people, nothing i have to do- just get to eat, drink, and unwind before the wedding.

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