(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner guest list – including dates?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree that all or none is best, but since your inlaws are paying they do, as you said, get the final say. I guess you’d just have to explain it to the rest of the bridal party and they could relay it to their dates. I’m sure people will understand that it would be costly to include the additional people. It would make me a little uncomfortable to include some and not others but what can ya do, you know?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was under the impression that is the norm to give your bridal party a date option for the rehersal dinner. After all they are spending time and money to be with you and your future husband on the big day, the least you can do is let them bring a date to the rehersal dinner so they will have someone to chat with during all the boring speeches.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If they’re in the bridal party, they should have the option to bring a date if they aren’t married. Mine will have the option at least.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Your bridal party does a lot for you, I would allow them to bring dates. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

From personal experience as a bridesmaid, I found it quite upsetting that I wasn’t given the choice of bringing my Fiance to the rehearsal dinner. We are giving our bridal party the option of bringing someone to the rehearsal dinner– whether they have a Husband, Fiance, Significant Other or not.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think the entire wedding party should bring dates if they would like as long as it’s in the budget. If it’s not, then no. EVeryone does their rehearsal dinner differently so there really isn’t a rule of thumb here. SOme just have wedding party and immediate family. Some include out of town guests. Some are even smaller and only the wedding party, no dates if they aren’t in the party. I have been to both kinds. 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d say it’s all or nothing… But if they’re paying, I think it might be their choice!

And you can always let your bridal party know that “FMIL chose who was invited! I didn’t even get a say!”

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