Post # 1
Are you ever just sitting there totally minding your own business when something occurs to you that you weren’t even worrying about?
I know that traditionally, the Rehearsal dinner includes bridal party, immediate family and Out of Town guests.
But what if ALL of your guests fit this mold? I mean, I guess the whole guest list could be there, but that just seems weird. And since we’re having an informal wedding anyhow, it’s not like we would have two drastically different atmospheres.
I know that with a small guest list, I could just not have one, but really, I’d like to spend more time with the people who are traveling to be with us.
I sort of think I can do pizza, salads and garlic bread, and just invite people to hang out in the backyard, and whoever wants to come can come?
Is this my best option?
Post # 3
We had a semi-destination wedding where everyone had to travel. My mother-in-law was footing the bill for food so we had to figure something out. We ended up hiring a caterer for a casual dinner for immediate family and bridal party but invited everyone to open house for dessert beer and wine. This way every body felt included!!
Post # 4
Actually, all Out of Town guests are not traditionally invited to the rehearsal dinner, though many hosts choose to include them. I wouldn’t expect an invitation to the rehearsal dinner as an Out of Town guest. I am leaving this completely up to Future In-Laws, though our situation is similar to yours where we have a small guest list and if Out of Town guests are all invited, it will be nearly the entire guest list there. I personally would love that, as I feel it serves as a great start to a weekend away for most of the guests to enjoy together, and happily stretches out the feeling of coming together to celebrate the couple. The one time I was invited to a rehearsal dinner as an Out of Town guest it was a fabulous time and really rounded out the weekend’s feeling of community and fun.
Your idea of pizza and garlic bread in the back yard sounds delightful. I would make it clear to everyone that they are all invited, as some people will probably be confused as to whether they’re meant to go or not. Use a separate invitation, or an insert in the invitation suite. A rehearsal dinner, even a casual one, is a great way to say thank you to all the people who made your wedding possible.
Post # 5
Yeah, I would agree with pp, traditionally Out of Town are not included, just a nice a gesture, but by no means are you required to do so, especially since majority of your guests are Out of Town
Post # 6
I will probably just have people that are involved with the actual wedding ceremony be at the rehearsal dinner. So, that would be parents, siblings, wedding party and dates, readers and dates, priest, etc.