Post # 1
Hey guys –
Our wedding is on a Sunday, so by definition we are planning our rehearsal dinner for Saturday night. Since we are getting married in a small beach town in northern MA, I am having one hell of a time finding somewhere that will host the dinner.
Restaurants: most of the ones I’ve spoken to won’t let you do a private party on a Saturday night unless you spend like $7K. Um, no.
Hotels: All the hotels in the area are inns/motels with no common area so no place to host a dinner.
Beach BBQ: Seems a bit risky/high-maintenance to do something outside where we have to provide food/prepare it all for our guests.
The one thing we’ve found so far that works is a place that will host a dinner for 35 people max. We are having around 80 Out of Town guests (110 or so total), so 35 would literally just be our immediate families – no friends, no parents’ friends. That might be a bit of a bummer, we were hoping for more like 50 or all Out of Town guests if we could afford it.
Also, because it’s a Saturday night, many of the normal ‘venues’ will have weddings and won’t book us instead.
I’m not sure what to do.. anyone ever had logistical issues like this with the RD?
Post # 3
Since my daughter’s wedding in May was in a beach town and on a Friday, we decided to have the rehearsal and dinner the Sunday before so people didn’t have to take off work 2 days in a row to be there. We had only the parents and bridal party with their spouses. It worked out fine, but that’s what was wanted…small and intimate and not including everyone that was invited to the wedding. We all only live an hour away from the beach,so it was really nice and casual.
You sound like you want to include all Out of Town guests, so our solution won’t help, unless you do as we did the weekend before,early, and have just a drinks and snacks kind of welcome party for everyone the night before. We didn’t want 2 wedding receptions,since everyone was from out of town.
Post # 4
Could someone with a backyard hold a bbq?
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
maybe you could have the small 35-person rehearsal dinner, but then invite all the Out of Town guests to a bar or somewhere casual? i think people understand that a rehearsal dinner with all the Out of Town guests is not always feasible, but an invite to something more casual afterwards is always nice.
Post # 6
Could you do the rehearsal dinner on the Friday before instead? Or would that not work with the people coming in from OOT?
Edit: By the way, I only ask because you seem to wish that everyone could come. It is definitely NOT required that Out of Town guests who aren’t in the wedding party/immediate family be invited to the rehearsal dinner. About half our guest list will be Out of Town, but our rehearsal dinner will only be immediate family. I don’t want to have what would practically be a 2nd reception the night before.
Post # 7
i like pug’s suggestion! have a non-hosted “welcome meet-up” at a local bar after the dinner
Post # 8
@ItWasntMe: unfortunately people are coming from pretty far for the wedding, so the weekend before isn’t an option.. nobody will be in town and they won’t travel twice.
@Jenniferk6: We don’t know anyone who lives in the town of our wedding (about an hour away from where we live). The guests (and we!) will be staying in that town on Sat night, so we want to do it near to there, if possible.
@misspug: That’s exactly what I am thinking. Fiance is a little overwhelmed at the prospect of having *another* get together to organize, but I think if we just pick a place and say ‘we’ll be here’, it should be easy enough.
@mightywombat: Most people are flying in Saturday morning and home Monday morning (wedding is 3-9, or so, on Sunday). Plus I’m thinking I might do a small bachelorette thing Friday night if my girlfriends can come in a day earlier.
Edit on your edit: No, I am definitely not interesed (nor can we afford) to have everyone from Out of Town, but we were hoping to be able to do about 50, immediate family, “bridal party” (we’re not having one, but a couple of close friends), and some parents’ friends. 35 would be only family, but I think it would make sense.
Post # 9
One of my friends got married on the beach on St. Simon’s Island, GA. Like you, there weren’t a ton of options for places to hold something like a rehearsal dinner. They ended up renting a beach house for the long weekend that family stayed iin intially and the Groom and GMs stayed in the night before the wedding. They used the house/backyard to host the rehearsal dinner and had a really good BBQ restaurant cater in food. So good and so much fun! Maybe you could look into renting a house for a few days and doing something similar?
Post # 10
@Mrs.KMM: Dang. That’s a great idea. But we already booked all of our accommodations for the weekend at one of the inns/motels (ironically: our place has a restaurant on-site, and we are doing brunch there, but they don’t serve dinner. Oh well.) I guess we could still make that happen, but my entire family would have to change hotels.. great suggestion, thanks!