(Closed) Rehearsal dinner help?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What to do?
    Have only 35 people at the restaurant that will do it - good excuse to keep it small : (10 votes)
    53 %
    Expand the search to another city that will host a bigger group : (4 votes)
    21 %
    Start looking at alternate ideas like parks : (5 votes)
    26 %
    Other (below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    5761 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Since my daughter’s wedding in May was in a beach town and on a Friday, we decided to have the rehearsal and dinner the Sunday before so people didn’t have to take off work 2 days in a row to be there. We had only the parents and bridal party with their spouses. It worked out fine, but that’s what was wanted…small and intimate and not including everyone that was invited to the wedding. We all only live an hour away from the beach,so it was really nice and casual.

    You sound like you want to include all Out of Town guests, so our solution won’t help, unless you do as we did the weekend before,early, and have just a drinks and snacks kind of welcome party for everyone the night before. We didn’t want 2 wedding receptions,since everyone was from out of town.

    Post # 4
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    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Could someone with a backyard hold a bbq?

    Post # 5
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    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

    maybe you could have the small 35-person rehearsal dinner, but then invite all the Out of Town guests to a bar or somewhere casual? i think people understand that a rehearsal dinner with all the Out of Town guests is not always feasible, but an invite to something more casual afterwards is always nice. 

    Post # 6
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Could you do the rehearsal dinner on the Friday before instead?  Or would that not work with the people coming in from OOT? 

    Edit: By the way, I only ask because you seem to wish that everyone could come.  It is definitely NOT required that Out of Town guests who aren’t in the wedding party/immediate family be invited to the rehearsal dinner.  About half our guest list will be Out of Town, but our rehearsal dinner will only be immediate family.  I don’t want to have what would practically be a 2nd reception the night before.

    Post # 7
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i like pug’s suggestion! have a non-hosted “welcome meet-up” at a local bar after the dinner

    Post # 9
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    One of my friends got married on the beach on St. Simon’s Island, GA.  Like you, there weren’t a ton of options for places to hold something like a rehearsal dinner.  They ended up renting a beach house for the long weekend that family stayed iin intially and the Groom and GMs stayed in the night before the wedding.  They used the house/backyard to host the rehearsal dinner and had a really good BBQ restaurant cater in food.  So good and so much fun!  Maybe you could look into renting a house for a few days and doing something similar?

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