Post # 1
Alright Bees I need your help!
My venue is about an hour drive from where I live and where our guests will be staying in their hotel. There really arent many choices for restaurant where we are getting married either. So we will have to be at our venue on a Thursday (we marry Saturday) at 6 pm to start our rehearsal. I figure we will finish about 7 and then well have to drive an hour back and eat dinner. My bridesmaids are also planning on doing a mini bachelorette this night since all the girls will be in town that cant make it to my full blown bachelorette party.
That being said this leaves me a lot of questions and with a tight budget I can’t decide on my own.
Should I have everyone drive the hour there then an hour back and book a restaurant and fork over God knows how much money for dinner for about 30 people.
I could have the rehearsal and then Friday have a “get together” dinner at my house and people will be ok with that.
Have the rehearsal and then Friday have everyone drive an hour the other direction to my sisters for a get together at her house (she wants this, I think its too much driving for everyone but she has a lot more space than me and doesn’t think people will mind)
or..Scrath the rehearsal all together at the venue and have it at my parents house on the Friday before the wedding order pizza and wings and call it a day.
Is it weird to have a rehearsal somewhere besides the venue where your getting married. My sister seems to think the kids will be confused and that everyone is going to want to see where were getting married before hand. Shes been married, I have not so all I can go on is what she thinks but I really dont see that it matters that much. She asked if I wanted pictures there of my rehearsal but that isn’t that important to me either. I am thinking, budgett, convenience, and fun.
So ladies, please help. I have a couple more weeks to figure this out.
Post # 3
@crystalirene: I would not have the rehearsal at a location other than your wedding venue. However, have the dinner wherever is closest and easiest
Post # 4
Is there a different room in your venue that could work for a space to order pizza and stuff? One venue that I was looking at had a really cute parlor room and they said since they could set it up for me to have my rehearsal dinner there and order in food…..
Post # 5
I’m getting married Friday night and we have to have rehearsal on Thursday by 4pm (they close for other events). The venue is an hour away so this adds another night of hotel expense on for the bridal party, but they understand that.
I’d say the Friday dinner (whether pizza and wings or more formal) would be good. Makes it more like a wedding weekend and less driving. You will not please everyone, so try to do the option that would suit the highest % without breaking the ank
P.S. I wanted an informal dinner like pizza and wings, but was told NO WAY by our moms. URGH!
Post # 6
I have similar logisitical problems and decided just to not de the rehersal dinner all together…
Post # 7
The rehersal needs to be at the venue – no question. I know a lot of venues who aren’t too happy when there isn’t an on-site rehersal . I can’t imagine there are that many people involved in the actual ceremony…can you guys carpool to your parents and have pizza and wings? I don’t want to do the rehersal dinner either but my Future Mother-In-Law is sorta hellbent on it, so we have to, but I want to keep it as simple as possible.
Post # 8
A Rehershal is very important at the venue so everyone knows where to go and how to get around and where to wait at before enterancing. It gives you a chance to practice before hand. In regards to the dinner it’s nice to do as a thank you to the wedding party and families and best way to give them their gifts and recognize the parents as well.
I would at least do something because most do expect to be fed. Also this is the responsibility of his family unless they are not able to do so.