(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner help :(

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are inviting 



aunts/uncles since most will be Out of Town but still on the fence about this one really.

bridal party with their guests

special Out of Town guest (we have a few traveling internationally)

not inviting officiant since our rehersal isn’t until the morning


How old is his sister? I generally think it’s fine for her to bring a friend – 1 person isn’t going to make or break it. 


Post # 4
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would put the veto on the sister bringing a friend. There will be plenty of family there for her to talk to.

For the officiant, I don’t see inviting him to the dinner as neccesary but if you do, I would think just his wife would be fine (not the kids, unless you are friends with the family, then maybe. but even then, probably not)

Readers- same deal, if they are married then I guess you could.

Some people invite any out of town guests that will be in town, but I vote no for that (I think that is how things get really big). But other than that, I think you included everyone!

Post # 6
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

We’re inviting:

Both Sets of Parents

Siblings and SOs (the guys are ushers)

Wedding Party and SOs

Mistress of Ceremonies and SO

Officiant and SO

Ours is 22 people and that seems like SO MANY!

Post # 7
4370 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had:


Wedding Party & dates (which included siblings)


Grandparents (and my aunt/uncle who drove my grandma)

Officiant & wife

A VIP couple (helped set up the engagement and helped me with wedding DIY)


That was it; however, after the dinner, we had a backyard campfire for any guests who were in town that night, which was fun!

Post # 8
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we had 4 bridesmaids 2 grooms men( 2 had to work) his mom, her two sisters, my parents, my older sister, our three kids the officent and wife and the pianoist and husband father in law and fil gf and father in laws best friend…



23 people total… officent and pianoist are really close to the fil and to husband me. we would have had more but some out of town guests missed their flights and had food poisioning.

Post # 9
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re inviting:

  • parents
  • grandparents
  • bridal party + dates
  • readers + their families
  • Out of Town guests who will be arriving the night before

We’re expecting about 60 people. We probably won’t do an official rehearsal so we won’t be inviting the officiant. 

Post # 10
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel your pain.  We are at about 50 people right now!! I’d say no to the sister’s friend… really that’s just excessive… if she’s too young to sit nicely at the table with the adults bring some toys, of course it sounds like she’s plenty old enough so I’d make her/her parents deal with it.  Is your officient/ceremony religious? If so I think it’s a good idea to invite them but if they’re not than I don’t think you need to invite them.  Here’s who we’re inviting:

Bridal party and thier guests

Four flower girls and their parents and siblings (many of the siblings overlap in other positions too)


Singer (an Aunt) & Hubby


Grand Parents

God parents who will also be readers

Alter boys (also flower girl siblings)

There is also only one Aunt who is not included of those on that side of the family so we’ll be including them as well (only 3 people)

Post # 11
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I invited:

Bridal party (most were married to the groomsmen anywa).


My oot family and friends

All family in the wedding and anyone partaking in the wedding (readers, program basket attendant, rose petals basket attendant).

Cousin who was my day of helper

We had well over 40 people and my mother and stepdad did the food.  It was so GOOD!


Post # 12
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

We are inviting Bridal Party (and their families), parents/grandparents, officiant (not sure about wife; I don’t even know if he’s married).  I think that’s it.

Post # 13
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think if you invite the officiant, you should invite his SO.

We started with 

  • the wedding party & their SOs
  • the immediate families and grandparents
  • the officiants (2) and their SOs
  • the musician (friend) and his SO

But I wanted to add aunts and uncles and cousins.

Then I wanted to add out-of-town relatives and friends.

That was alost everyone. So we just decided to invite everyone and call it a welcome dinner. It’s eay to get big.

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