Post # 1
Ok Ladies, I need to know if I’m crazy for feeling this way..
So I am a graphic designer and I have designed all of our wedding stationary and anything else you could possibly think of for our wedding. This includes the rehearsal dinner invitations.
I just printed them out yesterday and gave to my Fiance to show his parents. Turns out, they ordered the invitations months ago, and apparently didn’t care to ask if we liked them. And better yet, didn’t think to ask me to design them since I have designed everything else for the wedding.
I feel like we should’ve been involved in picking out the inviations, but of course my Fiance thinks I am just trying to manage everything, which even if I am.. its our wedding day! I should be allowed to right?!?
Post # 3
Technically, the rehersal dinner is your Future In-Laws responsibility – they run the show, from the menu to the invitations. It would have been nice to have asked you, especially given your expertise and willingness, but no, I don’t think you should have been involved off the bat.
Post # 4
I also agree. If they are hosting the dinner, they can decide on the invites. It would have been nice for them to have shown you the invite and let you been involved.
Post # 5
I have to agree with the bees above as well. I shared pictures with my Future Mother-In-Law of what I liked for our rehearsal dinner invite (more vintage, classic feel) and she went in a very different direction (very modern). The thing is, his parents are paying for it so I just smiled and said thank you. You are lucky to have in laws who will be doing this on here – think about all the Bees who don’t have family willing or able to give them a rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
I, too, have to agree. Technically, if they are paying, they don’t have to run anything by you.
My Future In-Laws put a deposit down on a venue without talking to us. A venue we hate. Oh well! Soooo I really doubt I’ll be seeing any invites ahead of time despite my Fiance asking them to run things by us before making major decisions.
Post # 7
Are you Future In-Laws paying for the dinner/hosting it? It would have been nice if they had at least mentioned they already ordered invites so you didn’t go through the trouble and expense of making your own. However they may not have even thought about it, or thought about having everything match. Many people just go get invites without considering the design. On an upside, at least that part is already done and they are not waiting until the last minute.