(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Invite Advice! Urgent!

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Are you only inviting wedding party members? If so, I think you can just invite them by calling or email. If you’re inviting others, such as Out of Town guests, I would go buy some invites tomorrow and have them in the mail by Monday at the latest. You might not get as many people as you would have with more notice, but the people who were coming will come. As for your Mother-In-Law, just ignore her. She doesn’t want to be involved, so don’t make her. Just make sure they know where to send the bill.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our wedding is August 9th and our rehearsal is August 8th — we are planning on sending out our rehearsal dinner invites next, week so I don’t think you are that far behind.  Most people who need to be there should already know anyway, afterall they have to go to the rehearsal!  I would do the invites for her and send her the bill!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Yeah, everyone invited should already expect the invite.  You could do an evite or something.  I would be more concerned with the restaurant getting the contract – aren’t they able to rent out the space to someone else if they don’t have the contract?

Post # 7
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

She’s pulling a nice little passive-aggressive move on you here. I firmly believe that in the case of in-laws, it is your spouse’s responsibility to handle the issues. So my advice would be to have your fiance tell her (not you) that if the invites are not mailed by Friday, the two of you will be sending some yourselves. Then have him invite her to lunch and swing by the rehearsal dinner venue to sign the contract. Two can play the passive-aggressive game.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

We just invited wedding party and spouses/dates and a few other select people, and I just emailed/called people. Put the responsibility of deaing with your Future Mother-In-Law with your fiance and stay out of it. She can’t get to you if you don’t let her.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I like CarolineG’s idea — have your fh give his mom a deadline (this Saturday) and tell her if she doesn’t make it you and your fh will be sending out the invites yourself.  OF course, this isn’t how I would do it, but you already said you would do it my way 🙂

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I totally agree with the fact that it’s important the your Fiance deal with his mom. I have first hand experience in a past relationship of being the one to break bad news and it always looked like I was the one making the decisions they didn’t like. So they really resented me. If it looks like she’s not going to send them out herself, I’d just put together a cute digital invitation and save it as a pdf, and email it out to everyone as an attachement. Act like that was the plan all along. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I think Caroline G’s idea is good. It should be the Fiance that handles his mother not you. 

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