(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner — Invite Significant Other as well?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

especially since most couples are from out of town I’d say you pretty much have to invite them. Since their SO is busy with wedding events for the wedding That they both made the trip to come to, if one isn’t invited what are they supposed to do with that time?  Sit in the hotel room?  I’m inviting all SOs (assuming they are in long term relationships) and ALL out of town guests that will be in town the night before (Not saying you HAVE to invite all them as we’ll though). I’d opt for inviting SOs and find a relatively inexpensive place for rehersal dinner. 

Post # 4
5622 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

This is tricky. I understand that you are on a budget, but I think it would be wise to invite the spouses as well. I understand that catering for the rehearsal dinner can be costly [Ours is the same price as the wedding catering, $31/plate]. Is there any way you can have your rehearsal dinner at a family type restaurant? It wouldn’t be as fancy, but it would be alot cheaper. [You could even reserve a portion of an all you can eat plate or something, bringing the price down to around $15/per person, and most likely the would offer a discount.] Just a suggestion.

I’m not exactly sure what proper etiquette would be.. but I will be inviting my guests spouses to. However – we are limited our rehearsal to the bridal party/caterers [they are the hosts of the bed & breakfast we are having our wedding at], both sets of our parents, the rev & dj [close personal friend].

Post # 5
2163 posts
Buzzing bee

Social units must always be invited as a pair.  Social units are anyone who is married, engaged, or living together.  The rest you do not HAVE to invite, but I do think it would be in poor taste not to. 

It wouldn’t be polite to invite the attendent, and then just expect the significant other to fend for themselves in a strange town, and have to pay for food. 

If you are seriously pinching your pennies, then order pizza or something where the extra guests won’t be as large of an impact.  It doesn’t have to be fancy.

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