(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Invite Wording for alcohol on your own tab

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just put “cash bar available” at the bottom of the invite, it’s not a big deal.

Post # 4
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

our rehearsal is at a bowling alley (that has a full bar)  so on my invites I put “Food, Soda and Lanes provided!”  hopefully that explains it well enough for them.

I also dont want people all drunky the night before our wedding. So I hope people dont go overboard

Post # 5
1736 posts
Bumble bee

You could put something on the invite like:

“Complimentary non-alcholic beverages included” -or
“Cash bar available”

With regards to the servers, simply tell the restaurant manager to have them indicate  that beer and liquor can be purchased at the bar if they are asked.

Post # 6
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was thinkign the same thing as MsMindle and stating clearly that only non-alcoholic drinks will be included. I think people generally don’t have a problem with buying alcohol as long as they know ahead of time so they know to bring cash with them. That’s a great deal you’re getting! kudos!  

Post # 7
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, both of the PPs have good suggestions. We are also doing our Rehearsal Dinner at an Irish pub and planning to host the food but not alcohol.

One other option, if you can stretch your budget a little bit and want to be hospitable: you could put “The first drink is on us!” and pre-purchase a round/buy drink tickets that you distribute, so that people get one hosted beverage and then they know they’re on their own after that? Only if you feel comfortable that you can afford that, though – it looks like you did an excellent job of sticking with your budget, so don’t feel pressured to exceed it now that you’ve hit the mark so beautifully!

Post # 8
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just say Non alcoholic drinks are complimentary and just let the servers know booze is not covered, then they will be the ones to say something if alcohol is ordered.

Post # 9
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Freaking alcohol is so darn expensive.  Fiance and I were just tallying up the bar tab for having alcohol at our rehearsal dinner (Not including food) and it’s around 1650$.  So stupid.  Our venue requires we do all alcohol through them.  It kind of pisses me off. 

Post # 10
484 posts
Helper bee

I’ve been to cash bar weddings (so not quite the same but just adding my 2 cents) – I didn’t like it simply because ALL drinks we had to pay for ourselves aside from tap water, if soft drinks had been available I would have been a much happier bunny. You are providing soda and coffee, that should be enough to keep any guest happy – I agree with PPs that you should just state the menu on the invite (i.e. please join us for food, soda and coffee) and add ‘cash bar available’ at the bottom. That way people know they will have something to drink, but alcohol is extra and they can come prepared with some cash.

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