(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Invites

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

@Vancouverbride: The readers definitely need to be invited if they are going to be at the rehearsal. Talk to your Future In-Laws and explain what you just said. So you’re all just going to dinner and the readers are told to go home? lol Maybe she will understand your POV. IMO I don’t think the Flower Girl or Ring Bearer need to be invited.

Post # 4
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our guest list is at 50.  Bridal party(8 BMs, 7 Groomsmen, 2 Ring Bearer, 2 FG) their parents, readers, close family. 

I feel if they are a part of your day they should be invited to the dinner.  Change it around to accomodate the people.  We are serving sandwiches(ok, real nice banh mi from a great restaurant) and no alcohol.  I am planning on it being around $300.  It can be done cheaply!

Post # 5
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46416 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It always amazes me that people who are hosting an event that involves 23 people, balk at making it 25. In the grand scheme of the things the increased cost is negligible.

The readers should be invited to dinner.

I can see not inviting the Flower Girl or Ring Bearer if the dinner will be running late, because they will need to be in bed if they are young. I would however want to ensure they received their bridal party gifts at the end of the rehearsal before they leave.

Post # 6
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

The readers need to be at the rehearsal and the dinner.  Honestly, the readers have more to learn (where to stand to read, using the mic, when durng the ceremony they get up to read) than the bridesmaids and groomsmen (most people can figure out on their own how to walk down an aisle).  It would be extremely rude not to invite the readers to your dinner.  Just tell your fiance you insist.  As someone else said 2 more people won’t be much more expensive (and if either reader is married or engaged their significant other should be invited as well).  We had 52 people at our rehearsal dinner!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@julies1949: This is exactly what I was thinking. When you have that many, will two more really be that awful? I agree they should be invited.

I’m a little confused about what “the point” is for your Fiance though… he says the cost isn’t the issue? With a group that size you won’t notice two extra people. Does he dislike your readers for another reason?

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