Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2020 - New York, New York
Hi Bees! I’ve seen on several websites that some couples invite out-of-town guests to the rehearsal dinner, but I’m not sure how common this is or if it’s expected. Did/Will you invite out-of-town guests to your rehearsal dinner?
Post # 2
We only invited those directly involved with the wedding and immediate family. But literally every single guest was from out of town
Post # 3
we are actually inviting all wedding guests 🤷♀️ 99% of wedding guests are out of town, so figured we minds well include the few local friends we have too. My future in laws are paying for the event and wanted to do it this way, and I’m happy to spend more time with all our friends and family we rarely get to see.
Post # 4
Bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, and grandparents, and the officiant. That’s about it! I think a couple of the groomsmen have wives that will also of course be invited too.
Post # 5
We are doing wedding party and out of town guests. But we will have a small wedding party. And most of my FI’s family is local, but all mine is out of town, so we are inviting out of town family and friends to the dinner and then doing a bar afterwards for locals.
Post # 6
We didn’t — only because EVERYONE was out of town and it seriously would have been a second reception.
Post # 7
We didn’t invite everyone – everyone was coming from at least an hour away and it felt excessive to have a second full dinner for everyone. We had a rehearsal dinner of 20 (immediate family and bridal party) and then invited the rest of the guests for 2 hours of dessert/cocktails.
Post # 8
we had a super small wedding, and most guests lived in town, so we kinda extended the invite to anyone. But mainly the bridal party and extended family were the only ones to show up. Which was fine with us.
Post # 9
Our rehearsal dinner will have the bridal party and their SOs as well as our immediate families. If we were to have everyone from out of town, that would be most of the guest list.
Adding people from out of town to the rehearsal dinner is a nice courtesy but not expected
Post # 10
We didn’t have a wedding party (just bride, groom, flower girl, ring bearer). We had a lot of friends and family from out of town who were flying in that day. We called it a welcome dinner and did a casual and delicious bbq buffet.
Post # 11
100% of our guests were out of town, so we stuck with wedding party members and their SO’s, and immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents).
Post # 12
I’m only inviting people who are involved in the actual ceremony(and their plus-ones). Thankfully this totals exactly 24 and that is the max my rehearsal dinner restaurant allows in their private room.
Post # 13
Us, wedding party plus dates, all parents, all grandparents, officiants family, the DOC and her family and aunts and uncles + cousins (all of them are traveling in). It’s big, we are doing the whole deal in a conference room at our hotel and catering fajitas.
out of town guests are invited to the bridal shower and the hotel just so happens to have a free happy hour during the rehearsal dinner. Also inviting everyone to a dance lesson, some are invited to brunch on Sunday, some are invited to golf Saturday morning and some are invited to check out a bouldering gym on Sunday.
its a lot of keep track of. Those other “events” are done by email, word of mouth and Facebook
Post # 14
The majority of the rehearsal dinners I attend these days are immediate family, bridal party, all out of town guests and their respective SOs.
But of course this is not obligatory by any means. Traditionally you would include immediate family and bridal party.
Post # 15
we did just immediate family and bridal party (plus SOs). For us, ALL the guests were out of town (including ourselves) so it would have been a second reception ($$$) AND we couldn’t find a venue in the area with a large enough space without paying another $10k venue fee. So it wasn’t feasible. When we had all the guests staying at one hotel (which then blew up and had to be cancelled, long story), we thought about hosting a mini welcome party for all guests post-dinner – just like an hour open bar with some appetizers to snack on – at the hotel. But that didn’t happen, so.. 🤷🏼♀️