Post # 1
Let me preface by saying that both our wedding and rehearsal dinner RSVPs will be online. Also, my parents are hosting the wedding; my Future In-Laws are hosting the rehearsal dinner.
I have read online, etiquette says to mail out Rehearsal Dinner invites separate from the formal wedding invitation. My concern is if I mail them out after our wedding invitations, guests who have been invited to both would go online to RSVP to the wedding and see it listed there to RSVP to rehearsal dinner too, before having received the invitation. Is it silly for that to bug me, lol?
My work-around would be to mail out both fairly close together so that guests would most likely RSVP after having received both. But the thought of mailling them out one after another (using more stamps) when I can just mail out together with wedding invite makes me -_- But since my Future In-Laws are hosting it, I’d feel funny throwing it in with the wedding invitation.
We could, of course, just do it word-of-mouth or just have guests assume their invite once they RSVP online for wedding and see that they are also invited to rehearsal dinner, but I dont know, I guess I’d like to do something special for the occasion. Also, what about guests who don’t RSVP online (just tell us word-of-mouth) and then we have to worry about who knows and doesn’t know about being invited to rehearsal dinner?
Planning on seeing what my Future Mother-In-Law wants to do, but wanted to check others’ options, too. Thoughts?
Also FYI, our rehearsal dinner with be in a cute BBQ restaurant, so more on the casual side, but we’d still like to keep it as special and “formal” as possible.
Post # 2
We’re not doing online RSVPs, but we are doing separate rehearsal dinner invitations.
We’re actually having a rehearsal dinner for about 1/3 of our guests (close family, bridal party and their guests) and then a cocktail and passed appetizer welcome reception for all of our guests.
For our STD’s I will include a details card with our hotel block information and the time and place of our welcome reception.
We’ll send separate invitations to all guests about the cocktail reception and I anticipate those being sent around the same time as our invitations, since everyone has a heads up.
Post # 3
slorsc : Wait, so will everyone see an option to RSVP to the rehearsal dinner, even if they aren’t invited to it? Either way, it might be easiest to just not have the rehearsal dinner RSVPs online and have them go straight to her Future Mother-In-Law instead.
Post # 4
Our events are also hosted by different people and we sent the invitations separately. We sent them at the same time, but if anything I’d send the Rehearsal Dinner invites first, presumably the VIPs invited to your rehearsal dinner have already received Save-The-Date Cards and know they’re invited to the wedding, but they might not know if they’re invited to the Rehearsal Dinner or not until they receive the invite.
Also, I am using RSVPify, and there are options to add extra events in an invitation. I.E. if you type in John Smith, your invitation to the wedding and Rehearsal Dinner will pop up for you to RSVP to, but if you type in Sam Johnson (a guest not invited to the RD), just the wedding will pop up. Just a thought in case you haven’t selected RSVP software.
Post # 5
n00bee : Nope! I am using Zola and you can specifically indicate which guests are invited to which events and then when they look up their invitation, all the events they are invited to will be listed. Someone who is only invited to wedding will see option to RSVP to wedding online; someone invited to wedding and rehearsal will see option to RSVP to both wedding and rehearsal.
Post # 6
slorsc : ah, ok! Well in that case it probably doesn’t really matter. If someone gets the wedding invite before the dinner invite and it’s not clear to them that they should RSVP for both, then they’ll return to the RSVP site once they get the dinner invitation. No matter what you do, you’ll probably still have to track a few people down who forget to RSVP!