Rehearsal Dinner Invites – Card insert or separate invitation?

posted 7 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Worker bee

We’re not doing online RSVPs, but we are doing separate rehearsal dinner invitations.

We’re actually having a rehearsal dinner for about 1/3 of our guests (close family, bridal party and their guests) and then a cocktail and passed appetizer welcome reception for all of our guests.

For our STD’s I will include a details card with our hotel block information and the time and place of our welcome reception.

We’ll send separate invitations to all guests about the cocktail reception and I anticipate those being sent around the same time as our invitations, since everyone has a heads up.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

slorsc :  Wait, so will everyone see an option to RSVP to the rehearsal dinner, even if they aren’t invited to it? Either way, it might be easiest to just not have the rehearsal dinner RSVPs online and have them go straight to her Future Mother-In-Law instead. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Our events are also hosted by different people and we sent the invitations separately. We sent them at the same time, but if anything I’d send the Rehearsal Dinner invites first, presumably the VIPs invited to your rehearsal dinner have already received Save-The-Date Cards and know they’re invited to the wedding, but they might not know if they’re invited to the Rehearsal Dinner or not until they receive the invite.

 

Also, I am using RSVPify, and there are options to add extra events in an invitation. I.E. if you type in John Smith, your invitation to the wedding and Rehearsal Dinner will pop up for you to RSVP to, but if you type in Sam Johnson (a guest not invited to the RD), just the wedding will pop up. Just a thought in case you haven’t selected RSVP software.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

slorsc :  ah, ok! Well in that case it probably doesn’t really matter. If someone gets the wedding invite before the dinner invite and it’s not clear to them that they should RSVP for both, then they’ll return to the RSVP site once they get the dinner invitation. No matter what you do, you’ll probably still have to track a few people down who forget to RSVP!

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