- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2008
I have a small dilemma. I don’t want to make it a big deal but I’m not sure how to handle it.
My fiance is from another state, 1300 miles away. He moved to my state and we’ll be living here, so that’s where we chose to have the wedding.
So obviously his whole side is far away and will have to travel a good distance for the wedding.
Now, as I’ve said before, his dad very generously offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. However, he also wants to invite EVERYONE who’s coming from out-of-state (just on their side) to the rehearsal dinner as well.
I don’t want that, I wanted the rehearsal dinner to be a small, special time with my wedding party. I had told my fiance I didn’t mind if they invited his family from out-of-state, like the grandparents – but I guess his dad had in mind to invited even the non-relatives… so that there would be 50-75 people. He views it as, “people are coming all that way for the wedding, we should give them this thank you dinner.”
But I have a different idea of what a rehearsal dinner should be and that’s definitely not it! People don’t travel so far and expect to be included in EVERY wedding event, they come for the actual wedding.
I’ve discussed this several times with my fiance and although he understands where I’m coming from, he is kind of on his dad’s side with this.
Should I let his dad do whatever he wants since he’s paying? I mean, I am organizing the whole thing by myself, should I have a say in this?
I’m not extremely close with his parents, due to being so far away and having not spent much time with them, so I don’t feel like I can talk to them openly and honestly… so everything from me is communicated to them through my fiance..
I do love his parents, and I don’t want to be disrespectful and this is definitely not a post to bash them, because they’re very dear to me and my fi is very close to his parents…