- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So I’ve read that you are supposed to invite the grandparents to a rehearsal dinner. Dear Fiance and I each have a Grandma, and he has a Grandfather who has a second-wife (not DF’s grandmother who passed away). The issue is that Dear Fiance also has an Aunt with special needs whose caretaker is his Grandma. Tonight I asked him if we invited his grandma, would his Aunt need to come too? He flat out said “yes, they are a package deal.”
I have a few concerns with this. 1. We have a lot of Aunts and Uncles…will this cause a trickle down effect where they will want to be invited since they found out that 1 Aunt is coming? 2. Our rehearsal dinner location involves a lot of walking, and his Aunt would either need a wheelchair (and someone to push her) a long distance, or we’d need to pay for private transportation to get here there (you can’t drive yourself as the area is restricted). 3. It’s an extra person I’d have to pay for. (I’m paying for the rehearsal…DF’s family has not offered to help us with expenses).
So my question is, is it fair for me to ask Dear Fiance to take this up with his family and arrange for his Uncle and his wife to stay with his Aunt while his Grandma is at dinner? Or, can I get away with not inviting any grandparents to avoid the issue altogether?