(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner issues

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would explain to your mother that because your future in law’s are paying for it, that you don’t feel comfortable extending the invitation to those outside of the wedding participants.  Say that after the dinner you are more than welcome to meet up with the extended family if so at hte hotel lounge, ect.  Explain that this will give your Out of Town guest a chance to explore the area and I’m sure your Nebraska realtives will appreciate the location change (we are like that haha)  I would also make it clear to your mom how disappointed you would be if she did not attend that this is your wedding and you need the support of the woman who raised you!   Good luck! 

Post # 4
17 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

@funnybunny: I think you are right in what you are feeling. Especially since his family is paying for the rehearsal dinner. It sounds like your mom wants to have a party more than a wedding. Remember this is for you and your Fiance. You are already letting her invite the 70 people to the wedding. Stand firm and keep your rehearsal dinner the way you want it. It will help make the whole event more intimate. 

Your mother will come, I’m sure it is just a threat she is using to make you invite the aunts and uncles. I have come under the same pressure because we have big families as well. Some times it’s easy to get caught up in all the “have to do this and have to do that” and we worry about offending someone. It will all be okay, I promise. 

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