(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner – Lots of Out of Town Guests

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As a wedding guest I never expect to be invited to the rehearsal dinner unless I am a part of the wedding party.  People’s feeling will not be hurt.  You should get to have the small intimate dinner you want!

Lots of our guests are from out of town but we are only inviting the bridal party, immediate family and close close close family to our Rehearsal Dinner.  The guest list is still 50 people but who wants to pay for two weddings really?  If we invited all 250 to Rehearsal Dinner that would be ludacris.  No reason it shouldn’t be the same for 75.  Good luck!

Post # 4
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Only the people involved in the wedding and your parents should go to the rehearsal dinner, imo. We’re having the bridesmaids/groomsmen, ring bearer/parents, flower girl, my parents, his parents, his sister [if she wants to come], and our officiant. It will end up being about 20 people, max. If we invited everyone who was coming from out of town, that would be pretty much everyone coming to the wedding. Forget that!

Post # 5
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’re doing a rehersal dinner with almost everyone from out of down allowed to go. But we are just doing sandwhiches and finger food with a relaxed hanging out vibe. More like a welcome party than anything else. 


I feel like we are inviting our out of town guests (aunt and uncle specifically) because they  invited us to their daughter’s rehersal dinner. (Even though we are family…)


But that’s what we want. So do what you want! You don’t have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. 

Post # 6
988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve never been invited to the rehearsal dinner when I’ve been an Out of Town guest, unless I was in the bridal party.  If you just invite bridal party and immediate family, you’ll be fine.

Post # 7
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We have a bunch of out of town guests but we are doing the rehearsal dinner first with those directly involved in the wedding (officiant, bridal party, immediate family – no cousins or anything). Then, we’re having a welcome party without food just some drinks that everyone will be invited to.

Post # 8
3884 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We also have a high percentage of guests from out-of-town and I know we don’t really HAVE to invite them to the rehearsal dinner, we were kind of unclear on exactly how “traditional” this tradition is.

We ended up planning a rehearsal LUNCHEON; it’ll be around 2pm which is still a bit late in the day for lunch, but it gives the guests the morning free to go knock around town.  We are ONLY taking the people actually in the wedding.  After lunch, we go rehearse.  Then back to the hotel where our out-of-towners are staying.

The best part, though, is that the hotel does a nightly “Manager’s Reception” which for all intents and purposes is a free happy hour.  We’re going to invite anyone who wants to drop by to do so. We’re going to have some very light nibbles catered by the hotel but nothing too elaborate, and the drinks are free ( Cool). People can feel free to make their own dinner arrangements after happy hour.

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