Post # 1
I’ll keep this short and sweet.. basically my parents think it is appropriate to have a rehearsal dinner that includes relatives (as most are traveling from out of state) and his parents think it should be restricted to only bridal party, parents, and grandparents… (all of his family is coming from out of state as well)..
Neither of our parents are worried about the cost and they have made that clear. My Fiance and I are on the fence about this and I would love some insight from those of you who have had large, inclusive rehearsal dinners as well as small, intimate dinners. Thanks!
Post # 3
My rehearsal dinner consisted of: Me & Darling Husband, My Godmother (she hosted), My parents, Mother-In-Law, our siblings (who were also in the bridal party), bridal party and their dates, the two readers for the ceremony, and that was it. We didn’t even invite the grandparents.
Post # 4
@thundersvine: we invited everyone, Bridal Party, family and out of town guests. We wanted it fun, informal and low key since our wedding was going to be over the top, so we had it the night before at our house. We had a catered high-end BBQ, lots of drinks, fun etc, and a Mr. Softee ice cream truck come at the end–the adults lost their minds more than the kids!
I definitely wanted to include the out of towners for a few reasons–mainly because I didn’t want them to have nothing to do when we were celebrating and feel left out. Also, we had brunch there the day after the wedding with the same caterers so we left the tents up all weekend and it gave us three chances to visit–you know how crazy wedding are so we were happy to have a little more time with everyone. Having a BBQ made it easy to let people come and go and let our guest count be flexible.
Post # 5
All I wanted & had were our moms, bridal party, their SOs, & those who did a reading & their SOs.
Post # 6
I dont think there is a right or wrong answer. It really is different depending on your circumstances. We had lots of out of town guests, but also almost all extended family was Out of Town, so we invited them. (instead of turning it into wedding reception part 1!)
Post # 7
We will be having everyone who can possibly make it – anyone who is family, involved in the wedding or in from out of town. We have a lot of people travelling in from far away, and I think it’s only proper to invite them because they are spending so much time and money to be there for our wedding.
Post # 8
technically we are inviting everyone to our rehersal dinner but we also are having it very early to sort of discourage a lot of people (4 pm rehersal and dinner at 5)
since all of our guests are travelling we will be hosting a welcome reception after the rehersal dinner w some appetizers/ bar food and a toast (open bar TBD based on how the budget works out in the next few months but at the very least we will have a tab running and get every guest at least one drink)
Post # 9
We are personally doing a welcome dinner instead of a rehearsal, and all Out of Town guests as well as anyone else will be invited.
Post # 10
We will have our immediate families, bridal party and their SOs, as well extended families (cousins, aunts, uncles) but our families are quite small, so it’s going to be 30 people in total. Our relatives are flying in from Asia and Europe so we definitely want them to join us for the Rehearsal Dinner.
Post # 11
Almost 90% of my guests were from out of town so we didn’t consider it. My friend from Austria at one point was going to come and my in-laws wanted to invite her if she did because she’d be coming farther than anyone else, but otherwise we kept it only immediate family and bridal party, because if we’d invited one or two aunts then it would end up being about 30 extra people.
Post # 12
We just did the bridal party and immediate family – the guest list would’ve spiraled out of control fast if we started inviting extended family and/or Out of Town guests. I know you said money isn’t an issue, but who is hosting? Because if your FI’s family is paying for it I don’t think your parents should be tacking unnecessary extra people onto the guest list.
Post # 13
My Future In-Laws are hosting and would like the bridal party, parents, and grandparents. If we included all family and/or out of town guests, it would be another reception.
Post # 14
i think each situation is unique…If it were up to me everyone would be invited!!
We’re having a Destination Wedding wedding so everyone is invited to our rehearsal dinner. Fiance and I just came home from FL we got our marriage license:), caved and decided to pay the extra money to have our Rehearsal Dinner on the beach at our hotel/venue.
ETA our guest list totals only 30 people