(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner or No rehearsal Dinner?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What should we do after our wedding rehearsal given we can't afford to host dinner?
    Let the wedding party loose to do what they want : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Invite the wedding party to join us at a nearby restaurant and everyone pay their own way? : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Invite wedding party back to our house for pizzas or Chinese food? : (53 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2000

    I voted for the pizza or chinese – my friend had a backyard BBQ and honestly, it was waaaayy better than any seated rehearsal dinner I’ve ever been to! At one point her kitchen turned into a dance floor and I was dancing with her grandma, it was so much fun, haha

    Everyone got the chance to talk and hang out and wasn’t forced to sit in one certain place. I really can’t stress how amazing it was, I’ll never forget how much fun we had that night. 

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am in the same position as you.  I was hoping I could get away with “Hey, we’re going here for dinner, if you guys wanna come.” (and hoping people would get the point)

      I asked this question in my own poll and almost everyone suggested at least doing something…..even if it is just pizza to say “thanks” for attending our rehearsal.   We are probably going to do Pizza or go to a fun burger/bar joint….definitely nothing formal, planned or expensive.    I honestly think it would be more fun to go to a pizza party at someone’s house than a sit down dinner at a restaurant where everyone is talking over each other across a table.  Good Luck!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We couldn’t really afford to have a dinner the night before either and neither could our parents (we didn’t have an actual rehearsal though).  We ended up getting some hamburgers and hot dogs from the store and some chips and sides like baked beans and just having a cookout.  It was low key, fun, and a lot less expensive then going to a restaurant. I love Chinese though so I vote that if you can.  And I don’t think a half hour drive is too far, we drove about twenty minutes to the beach house my in laws were staying at to have the cookout. 

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think half an hour is too bad to travel. I just suggest ordering pizza/chinese ahead of time instead of trying to figure it out once you get back home. You never know how long it will take to be delivered and can be quite crazy trying to figure out the “menu”.

    Post # 8
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    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Pizza or Chinese!

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are skipping the formal rehearsal dinner to save money, and will be barbecuing pork shoulders and just doing pulled pork with traditional BBQ sides at my F-IL’s house.  I vote pizza/chinese, casual, relaxed, and fun!

    Post # 10
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    572 posts
    Busy bee

    We had a very informal dinner at our house. It was fun and we sat around talking. The guys watched the basketball game/NFL draft and it was a blast. I’m glad we did not do a formal dinner. We, too, did not want to spend any money. We did find a caterer who made food for a small fee, but I think pizza would be just fine!!!

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I say you should either do your second choice or your third, depending on what kind of couple ya’ll are. I think it would be perfectly fine to go to a restaurant and eat with everyone but have them pay for their own food. To me, that ain’t no big deal at all. I also like your idea of having everyone come back to your house for pizza or whatever. I think that would be a great idea for ya’ll to just hang out at a place where you all are comfortable and just hang out the day before the wedding. 

    Post # 12
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Our ceremony site wanted 200 dollars to do a rehearsal, f that, we are doing it at our house and having a bbq. More our style anyways, and the FH gets to show off his smoking skills which he loves to do.

    Post # 13
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We are in the same boat. I truthfully have not thought this far though. I think inviting them to your house would be great. I will probably do the same thing. I will also be non-traditional the day of the wedding and have the entire wedding party to our house for a bite to eat, all get ready together and then do picture all before the wedding ceremony.

    Post # 13
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We are in the same boat. I truthfully have not thought this far though. I think inviting them to your house would be great. I will probably do the same thing. I will also be non-traditional the day of the wedding and have the entire wedding party to our house for a bite to eat, all get ready together and then do picture all before the wedding ceremony.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    What about having everybody bring one dish with them. If everybody bought something over to someones house it could be a huge potluck dinner. I think that is an excellant idea… as a matter of fact I plan on doing this myself!

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It’s customary and a thoughtful gesture to have a rehearsal dinner after your ceremony rehearsal.  It would be inadvisable to ask your guests to pay at a restaurant though.  Instead, have the wedding party over for something casual like pizza or Chinese food.  Just let them know it’s a casual affair. 

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