(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Problem!

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If she is paying I think it is okay for her sisters to come and no one from your side…It’s not like they’ll know.  And it wasn’t YOUR decision.  Whenever someone asks about the rehearsal dinner just emphasize that it is the FMIL’s thing. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Did you talk to your Future Mother-In-Law yet? Maybe if you just tell her your concerns, she will understand that it isn’t really fair for her sisters and their husbands to come without your fam, but with your fam it is too many people!

I like your idea about the after party as a compromise. If Future Mother-In-Law wants to be rude and take back the $1000, I think it would be worth it to have the small dinner that YOU want.

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just go ahead and have FI’s relatives come and not yours. You can still do the afterparty. The rehersal dinner is a minor part of the wedding. The main part is the fact that you are getting married! This will probably happen for myself as well since adding my aunt, uncles, and adult cousins would increase the numbers greatly.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

agreed, Hoosier!  I think it’s important to to enjoy the members of your wedding parties and your families on this night … more important than $1,000.  Talk to her, and if she doesn’t come around about the extra invitees, politely decline and host a no-frills, intimate dinner with your inner circles!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My FI’s mom asked if her out of town sister could join us at the rehersal dinner.  I am not inviting any of my aunts or uncles…

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We are in a similar situation — my Future Mother-In-Law gave us a budget and told us to pick the place, and then both sides want all the extended family to come to the rehearsal dinner! We’re thinking of catering in food at the church afterwards so that everyone feels included & we’re still within budget. You can always head out for drinks with just your bridal party afterwards. Just an indea!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Just talk to her about & if nothing changes then you can always meet up with the rest of the family afterwards. If I were your aunt or uncle I would understand if I weren’t invited, but that’s just me.

Post # 10
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

cvbee seems to have hit the nail on the head. This is a problem I think many brides can empathize with…the strings attached to accepting gifts of money for wedding planning. :s

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would talk to her with your Fiance on board, and explain to her the situation. Let her know your concerns with inviting only a select few and what you guys prefer. She is paying for it, but it is still your event

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