Post # 1
I am looking for some help. Fiance and I never wanted a rehearsal the night before the wedding. We planned on a quiet night, just us.
However, we have 5 groomsmen, 5 bridesmaids and a flower girl. We are starting to feel like we should do a little practice run.
Our ceremony venue and the officient is going to charge us rehearsal fees and tack on about $250, money we don’t have. So my next though was doing a run-through with a dinner at my MIL’s house (they have lots of space) and just practicing walking and standing.
However, we are getting married on a Friday, and rehearsal would be Wednesday night. We have half of the bridal party coming in about 60-90 minutes one way away from us. Only a few are local. I don’t want to ask people to drive all that way for a 30 min rehearsal and dinner.
So the alternative was just doing a sheet outlining the ceremony, who is walking with who, timing etc.
What should I do? Should I do a rehearsal Weds night and possibly inconvenience everyone (which I hate to do since they are taking the day off Friday anyways for the wedding) or just do a template and ask them to know if by the day of?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
How many of them have been in weddings before? If you’ve got 10 newbie’s a rehearsal is definitely a good idea. If many of them have been in weddings before, they already know the drill and can lead those who haven’t. Also, does your venue have a coordinator that will help guide them? If so, a rehearsal is less important.
Post # 4
I’ve only been in a few weddings, but I can’t imagine a rehearsal and dinner taking only 30 minutes…if you’re having a simple ceremony, sure the rehearsal itself won’t take long, but the dinner will be a bigger thing, even at someone’s house. I’m pretty sure that everyone in the wedding party expects to go to a rehearsal, so if they’re willing to drive to the wedding, they should have planned to drive for the rehearsal, even though it might be a ‘pain’. I would talk to your bridal party and see if it will be too much trouble…if anyone can’t make it, then definitely go ahead with the local friends and take notes/make a chart for those that can’t make it.
Post # 5
Would it be possible to the rehearsal the weekend before the wedding? That would probably make it easier on those who have a long drive.
Post # 6
I don’t think it makes sense to do a run through without the officiant. What if they usually do things differently than you plan for in your run through? That would be confusing. If you are really set against paying the rehearsal fee, I would do the template in consultation with the officiant.
Post # 7
Why can’t you do the rehearsal on Thursday at MIL’s? I agree with PP that rehearsal without officiant it difficult
Post # 8
I had a rehearsal, but only to run through the music/service…pretty much wasn’t necessary, most of us know how to walk…
Post # 9
How about a weekend rehearsal luncheon?
Post # 10
We did s run through with our officiant, who was also our dj (and was doing music for the ceremony). I found it extremely helpful to run though everything the day before the wedding. Everyone knew their music cues, and everything ran so smooth on the day of (and I think the runthrough was to thank for that). However, as pp said, if you have a lot of people in your wedding party who have been in a lot of weddings, doing a template could be enough. Talk to your wedding party and see how they feel about it.,
Post # 11
I would skip the rehearsal altogether. I’ve never been in a wedding where I couldn’t have figured out what to do the day of. It’s not necessary.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
We just did a run-through with our officiant since he can’t make it to the rehearsal. And the run-through was really, really helpful and reassuraning and made us more excited for the wedding! We’re doing a rehearsal with the wedding party, though, since most of us haven’t been in a wedding before and therefore need a little bit of practice. If you can do the rehearsal before the wedding itself I think you really should, for the peace of mind of yourself and the wedding party. You don’t realize what logistics you’ll have to figure out until you actually rehearse. But if everyone’s been in weddings before then they should be ok with some good guidance before the ceremony begins.
Post # 13
If you can…I would do a rehearsal. But I have no idea how complex or not your ceremony is. But I would do it with the officiant. Personally, I just am picky and like to make sure everyone knows what is going on and work out any kinks before the actual ceremony.
If you don’t mind possible mistakes during the wedding ceremony or processional at least send your bridal party a breakdown of the order of events, etc. It’s not too hard to walk down the aisle, it’s just getting everyone/thing (people knowing when/where to go for readings, timing music, etc) in sync.
Why can’t you do it Thursday night? If you did it Thursday would the bridal party be able to come and stay then or would it inconvenience them?
Post # 14
Can you do the rehersal Friday morning?
Our wedding is Saturday night and we can’t have a Friday night rehersal, so it will be first thing Saturday morning.
Post # 15
@kes18: We don’t want to do it Thursday night since we will have tons going on, and we just want a quiet night at home. We have said this from the beginning, no Thursday night rehearsal.
Post # 16
I would say just do a practice run the morning of the wedding at the ceremony site before you get ready if you are getting ready onsite..
One of my bridesmaid insist that i MUST have a rehearsal dinner.. but i see it as unnecessary expense… how hard it is to walk down the aisle slowly? besides, the coordinator for your venue usually will indicate when to walk to each bridesmaid or you can have a friend do it so how hard can it be?