(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Question

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Should I do a Rehearsal?
    Yes - people will understand and will commute the 2-3 hours round trip : (7 votes)
    21 %
    No - just do the template, it will be fine : (23 votes)
    68 %
    Other - Please explain below : (4 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    How many of them have been in weddings before? If you’ve got 10 newbie’s a rehearsal is definitely a good idea.  If many of them have been  in weddings before, they already know the drill and can lead those who haven’t.  Also, does your venue have a coordinator that will help guide them? If so, a rehearsal is less important.  

     

    Post # 4
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    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve only been in a few weddings, but I can’t imagine a rehearsal and dinner taking only 30 minutes…if you’re having a simple ceremony, sure the rehearsal itself won’t take long, but the dinner will be a bigger thing, even at someone’s house. I’m pretty sure that everyone in the wedding party expects to go to a rehearsal, so if they’re willing to drive to the wedding, they should have planned to drive for the rehearsal, even though it might be a ‘pain’. I would talk to your bridal party and see if it will be too much trouble…if anyone can’t make it, then definitely go ahead with the local friends and take notes/make a chart for those that can’t make it.

    Post # 5
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Would it be possible to the rehearsal the weekend before the wedding? That would probably make it easier on those who have a long drive.

    Post # 6
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t think it makes sense to do a run through without the officiant. What if they usually do things differently than you plan for in your run through? That would be confusing. If you are really set against paying the rehearsal fee, I would do the template in consultation with the officiant.

    Post # 7
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    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Why can’t you do the rehearsal on Thursday at MIL’s? I agree with PP that rehearsal without officiant it difficult

    Post # 8
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    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had a rehearsal, but only to run through the music/service…pretty much wasn’t necessary, most of us know how to walk…

     

     

    Post # 9
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    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    How about a weekend rehearsal luncheon?

    Post # 10
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    1002 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We did s run through with our officiant, who was also our dj (and was doing music for the ceremony). I found it extremely helpful to run though everything the day before the wedding. Everyone knew their music cues, and everything ran so smooth on the day of (and I think the runthrough was to thank for that). However, as pp said, if you have a lot of people in your wedding party who have been in a lot of weddings, doing a template could be enough. Talk to your wedding party and see how they feel about it.,

    Post # 11
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    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would skip the rehearsal altogether. I’ve never been in a wedding where I couldn’t have figured out what to do the day of. It’s not necessary. 

    Post # 12
    Bee
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    We just did a run-through with our officiant since he can’t make it to the rehearsal. And the run-through was really, really helpful and reassuraning and made us more excited for the wedding! We’re doing a rehearsal with the wedding party, though, since most of us haven’t been in a wedding before and therefore need a little bit of practice. If you can do the rehearsal before the wedding itself I think you really should, for the peace of mind of yourself and the wedding party. You don’t realize what logistics you’ll have to figure out until you actually rehearse. But if everyone’s been in weddings before then they should be ok with some good guidance before the ceremony begins.

    Post # 13
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    9578 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If you can…I would do a rehearsal.  But I have no idea how complex or not your ceremony is.  But I would do it with the officiant. Personally, I just am picky and like to make sure everyone knows what is going on and work out any kinks before the actual ceremony. 

    If you don’t mind possible mistakes during the wedding ceremony or processional at least send your bridal party a breakdown of the order of events, etc.  It’s not too hard to walk down the aisle, it’s just getting everyone/thing (people knowing when/where to go for readings, timing music, etc) in sync.

    Why can’t you do it Thursday night?  If you did it Thursday would the bridal party be able to come and stay then or would it inconvenience them?

    Post # 14
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Can you do the rehersal Friday morning?

    Our wedding is Saturday night and we can’t have a Friday night rehersal, so it will be first thing Saturday morning.

    Post # 16
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    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I would say just do a practice run the morning of the wedding at the ceremony site before you get ready if you are getting ready onsite..

    One of my bridesmaid insist that i MUST have a rehearsal dinner.. but i see it as unnecessary expense… how hard it is to walk down the aisle slowly? besides, the coordinator for your venue usually will indicate when to walk to each bridesmaid or you can have a friend do it so how hard can it be?

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