Post # 1
We are trying to determine who should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Of course, the wedding party and our immediate families are on the list. I’ve heard that is proper to invite all out-of-towners to the rehearsal dinner. The vast majority of our guests will be from out of town, so that may not be possible cost-wise. I would like for my extended family on my mom’s side to come, but the wedding will be held about an hour from where most of my family lives and I don’t think they will make the trip two days in a row, given the age of my grandparents. As it stands now, almost all of the invitees to the rehearsal dinner will be my fiance’s extended family, which seems very lopsided.
Does anyone have advice on how to decide who should be invited? Thanks!
Post # 3
Basically we’re having the wedding party, their significant others, our parents, our officiant, and I’m guessing my grandfather (the only grandparent left/able to come). No extended family. No Out of Town guests because our wedding party is 13 people, and then when you have SOs we’re already topping 20-something. I’m not prepared to have a mini-wedding two days before my wedding, so I’m drawing a line.
I think if you’re inviting one side, you have to invite the other side. I’m an all or nothing type of gal 😉
Post # 4
I would just invite those who are involved in the rehearsal with their dates, and grandparents. We are also having an out of town wedding and didn’t want to host a “wedding before the wedding” type of event. If the out of towners want to join you after dinner for drinks, that’s a good option also. We are having an early rehearsal at 3:30, dinner at 5:00, and telling anyone else who wants to meet up later to come around 7:00.
Post # 5
Invite those involved in the rehearsal and their SOs, and your immediate family members. Why are there more people from your FI’s side?
Post # 6
Thanks for the input.
I am really close to my mom’s side of the family, but my family is pretty small (my mom, sister, grandparents, two aunts, two cousins, and a wife and kids for one of my cousins). As I mentioned in the first post, most of them probably would not make the trip twice in two days. My fiance, on the other hand, has a much larger family — each of his parents have maybe five siblings plus kids (granted, not all of them will be attending the wedding, I’m sure).
His parents are covering the rehearsal dinner and want to invite the family coming from out of town. My mom’s side and my bridal party will be invited, of course, but the numbers will still be lop-sided. I guess I’ll just not worry about it too much, as it is my choice not to invite my dad’s side to the rehearsal.
Post # 7
We will be keeping our Rehearsal Dinner small – the bridal party and SO’s, our parents, and officiant (+ SO) which will be about 18 adults (we may to accommodate two kids whose parents are in the bridal party). We have 7 grandparents between the two of us, so we won’t be including them at the Rehearsal Dinner. The wedding itself will be expensive enough without having to pay to have two big parties in two days. Plus, we are doing a gift opening at my parent’s place the day after. So I think inviting all the Out of Town and other family members to the Rehearsal Dinner is excessive.