Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2012 - Sundy House in Delray Beach, Florida
Do you need to include RSVP information for rehearsal dinner invitations? My Future Mother-In-Law wants to know an EXACT head count (we’re kind of inviting EVERYONE because Mr. B’s mom wanted to include all of the out of town guests… well you can’t just invite some people and not others, so now our once little dinner, is now a big party)! But she really wants to know an exact number and is talking of either including RSVP cards in the invites or providing her number for people to call her. I don’t really like either option… I figure once we get OUR reponse cards back, we’ll have a general idea how many will be coming to the rehearsal. Just curious… anyone else doing the whole RSVP thing for the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
Yes, you typically RSVP for the rehearsal dinner, because the hosts need to know a head count. Because it’s not a “formal” event, I would go with including her phone number and having people call.
Post # 4
we put rehearsal dinner invites in with the actual invites to the bridal party and readers. Darling Husband wanted to do this. I guess it’s nice to have so you have the accurate information.
Post # 5
My Father-In-Law handled this for our rehearsal dinner, and he put his email address for people to send him their rsvp (and entree option). Worked pretty well – I think he only had to chase down a few people.
Post # 6
Are you guys doing the traditional “groom’s parents host the rehearsal dinner” route? Because, if you are, then this technically is her party to host and she gets to make the call on invites and R.s.v.p.s. And I can understand her wanting as exact a head count as possible for planning purposes. And, while I see your point about just assuming that all of the Out of Town guests who R.s.v.p. “yes” to you will come to the Rehearsal Dinner – you don’t necessarily know their travel plans, some of them might be getting in late, etc., and wouldn’t make it.
Personally, I would pick this as an instance where I’d defer to FMIL’s preferences, make her happy, and build up some goodwill so that if there are disagreements about other things that are more important to me, I’d have this as a bargaining chip.
Post # 7
I think a phone number is fine. If Future Mother-In-Law is hosting, it is up to her to decide how to get her headcount.