(Closed) rehearsal dinner RSVP?!?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, you typically RSVP for the rehearsal dinner, because the hosts need to know a head count.  Because it’s not a “formal” event, I would go with including her phone number and having people call. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

we put rehearsal dinner invites in with the actual invites to the bridal party and readers. Darling Husband wanted to do this. I guess it’s nice to have so you have the accurate information.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Father-In-Law handled this for our rehearsal dinner, and he put his email address for people to send him their rsvp (and entree option). Worked pretty well – I think he only had to chase down a few people. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Are you guys doing the traditional “groom’s parents host the rehearsal dinner” route? Because, if you are, then this technically is her party to host and she gets to make the call on invites and R.s.v.p.s. And I can understand her wanting as exact a head count as possible for planning purposes. And, while I see your point about just assuming that all of the Out of Town guests who R.s.v.p. “yes” to you will come to the Rehearsal Dinner – you don’t necessarily know their travel plans, some of them might be getting in late, etc., and wouldn’t make it.

Personally, I would pick this as an instance where I’d defer to FMIL’s preferences, make her happy, and build up some goodwill so that if there are disagreements about other things that are more important to me, I’d have this as a bargaining chip.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think a phone number is fine. If Future Mother-In-Law is hosting, it is up to her to decide how to get her headcount.

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