Post # 1
My fiance and I, and our families are trying to figure out rehearsal dinner plans. My venue only rehearses ceremonies on Wednesday’s and Thursday’s due to other events/weddings that go on Friday nights.
My mother in law would like to have the dinner the Friday before the wedding (wedding is Saturday evening) because her family will be in from out of state. I am curious if this is okay to do? Or will it be too much for the wedding party if these events are all on seperate days? On one hand I would love to spend time with the out-of-towners on Friday… but on the other hand a night to relax before the big day sounds great and I feel bad making my party drive back and forth and give up so much time that week.
Let me know what you would do in this situation, or if you had your rehearsal dinner on a different day than the actual rehearsal.
Thank you! 🙂
Post # 2
Please don’t make this several events.
The rehearsal dinner is to thank your wedding party for taking time out of their schedule to rehearse for your wedding. You can invite out-of-towners, but that is NOT the intent of the dinner. You should have a dinner (or rather meal if not at dinner time) immediately following the rehearsal.
So I would say either
1. Skip the rehearsal altogether or do a very brief one immediately before the wedding the day of. Walking in a straight line and doing a rundown of the order is not that hard.
2. Skip a formal rehearsal at the venue and do a mock rehearsal somewhere else the Friday night. Again, walking in a straight line and doing a rundown of the order can really happen anywhere.
3. Have your rehearsal and dinner on the Wednesday or Thursday and then if your Future Mother-In-Law wants to host an out-of-towner BBQ for her family seperate from wedding festivities such that your wedding party is not obligated to attend (or possibly even you), then she can have at it.
Post # 3
I went to a wedding as an out of town guest. The rehearsal and rehearsal dinner was on a Thursday. The groom’s family hosted the out of towners for a BBQ on Friday evening. Only the groom and his family were there, the bride and her family weren’t. The wedding was on a Saturday. To make it easy on the bridal party, I would do the rehearsal dinner right after the rehearsal. It doesn’t need to be fancy. Then your Mother-In-Law can have a welcome type party on Friday for the out of towners. The bridal party doesn’t have to attend.
Post # 4
Are any of the wedding party OOT’s? If they are, I would skip the rehearsal on Thursday (or the two of you could go on your own), do a quick run through before dinner on the Friday for the benefit of the wedding party, then have dinner.
A rehearsal is so unnecessary that I can’t see asking Out of Town wedding party members to come in a day early.
Post # 5
Only one member of the bridal party is Out of Town, but I am not worried about them making it for a Thursday rehearsal. They will more than likely be in town for the whole week to visit with family. (Sibling).
Thanks for the advice!
Post # 6
nope, I’m not attending 3 days worth of wedding activities
Post # 7
If someone misses the rehearsal it’s not a huge deal. Have your Maid/Matron of Honor talk them through it. Have the dinner the same day as the rehearsal.
Post # 8
Yep, what everyone else said. It’s lovely that your Future Mother-In-Law is thinking of the OOTers, but it would be crappy to accommodate them at the expense of your wedding party. The rehearsal dinner should be as soon as possible after the rehearsal — definitely the same day.
Post # 9
I agree with others. If you feel like a rehearsal is needed I would proceed with original plans or even go casual and provide some pizza and refreshments after the rehearsal. Have a welcome dinner Friday night for the family coming in that the bridal party is not required to attend. Although, it sounds like you really wanna relax the night before the wedding so you could have your Fiance entertain the family while you have a night in.