(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner– Where? Who?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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LoveYal:  The purpose of the rehearsal dinner is to thank the wedding party for their time and support. It is also a good time to ensure that the immediate families on both sides have met prior to the wedding if that has not already happened. It is a great time to present your gifts to the wedding party members and to your parents if you are doing that, and express your appreciation.

Invitation list: Consult with your Future Mother-In-Law as she will be the hostess.

-members of wedding party and their SO’s

-anyone else with a role in the wedding-readers, ushers etc and their SO’s

– siblings of bride and groom and their SO’s

-parents of bride and groom

-grandparents of bride and groom

Some couples have taken to inviting all out of town guests to the Rehearsal Dinner, but for many of us, that would be almost duplicating the wedding reception guestlist. Personally, I think it is unnecessary. If you want to extend some hospitality to the OOT’s you could invite them to join you later for coffee and dessert or drinks.

Alcohol is an individual decision. If you decide to offer wine, beer etc, the hosts pay for it, not the guests.

The dinner itself can range from very casual- pizza and beer, to a plated dinner, or anything in between.


Post # 3
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We invited bridal party significant others and out of town family that booked rooms in our hotel block to our rehearsal. We started planning very early, almost a year in advance becuase we picked a venue that also holds weddings that is very close to our actual wedding venue. No formal invites, all word of mouth. For alcohol we will serve a selection of craft beer and wine.

Post # 4
2316 posts
Buzzing bee

You should talk to you Mother-In-Law about the guest list for your rehersal dinner.  She may only be expecting the bridal parites and people that have a part in the wedding and their SO’s.  Since she is footing the bill you should check with her to see if it is ok to invite out of town wedding guest too.  Rehersal dinners can easily turn into mini weddings and get out of hand. 

Post # 5
13943 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We did the wedding party and their dates, parents, grandparents, our officiant and his wife (relatives), and the readers.  I think it ended up around 30 people. 

Almost all our guests traveed into where we live for the wedding, so inviting Out of Town guests would have made it into a duplicate wedding reception.

Post # 6
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Our original plan was just bridal party/SO’s and parents/grandparents. Then it turned out that the place my Mother-In-Law booked has a 30 person minimun so we invited our aunts and uncles. My Mother-In-Law booked the place last month which is 7 months ahead of time!

Post # 7
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

We are having a backyard barbecue at our place the night before. It’s going to be super casual and all of our guests are welcome to stop by if they are in town! 

Post # 8
1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

In addition to the wedding party and their SOs, we are inviting all out of state guests, which is almost exclusively my family and friends, to the Rehearsal Dinner.   My Fiance was born and raised in the town we’re getting married in, so his side of the invite list is all local.  There are 52 people on the Rehearsal Dinner invite list, so about 1/3 of our total wedding guest list.  We are doing wood fired pizza and wine at the vineyard, our ceremony and reception venue.  

Post # 12
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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LoveYal:  we had our immediate family and bridal party (+SOs) in attendance at our rehearsal dinner. we didn’t invite out of town relatives. 

we didn’t send invitations out for the rehearsal dinner. we just told our bridal party that after the rehearsal we would be eating at this restaurant. personally i didn’t think it warranted an invitation, it was just like “okay rehearsal, now we’re all going to eat!”. nobody seemed to care that we didn’t send out rehearsal invitations.

we didn’t have alcohol but no one seemed to mind. also, one thing that helped immensely when dining out with a large group—we preordered family style, so by the time our 30+ group arrived, the food came out in minutes! great! (personally my pet peeve with large groups is waiting foreverrrrrr for orders and dishes to come out)

Post # 13
507 posts
Busy bee

Our is going to be at a local buffet restaurant after the rehearsal.  I’m not making a big deal of it.  Just the people present at the rehearsal, and their SO’s.  I’m not doing invites either.  There will only be 15 people.

Post # 14
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Wedding party & sig others

parents, nana

officiant (aunt)

my aunt and uncle (who is also our florist)

Fiance also invited our photog and her hubby bc we are all going to be “out of town” as we are traveling back to home town. We are paying for them to travel and they are wanting to meet the wedding party the night before. 


My mom is graciously paying for it. There

will be 18-20 people. She is providing toasting champagne, and the first wine or beer for guests. After that, they are welcome to purchase alcoholic drinks from the bar. We are eating at the restaurant That is catering and we are having a steak, salad, baked potato dinner. 

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