(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner: Who Should I Invite?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Immediate family, 

Those in the wedding and SO’s

Any grandparents (especially the one paying)

I dont think you need to invite parents of your cousin etc. Or Out of Town guests (alhtough some people do this, its not required)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We did:

Wedding party and their partners

Flower girl and her family

MC and his family

Our parents

Our siblings and their partners

Our grandparents

Turned out to be around 30.  I would say that your cousin BMs parents don’t need to be invited.  But you should ask your parents to guage their reaction…

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I would say the bridal party and their +1’s and any one who is going to be in the ceremony.  I don’t think it’s necessary to invite everyone, you’re already hosting them at the wedding.  As for Out of Town guests, I’m sure they can occupy themselves for a night

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am hoping to do:

Both immediate familys

Everyone in wedding party + so’s

Grandparents (also the officiant)

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t invite the step brother. I would definetly invite the grandpa who’s paying, immediate family and bridal party and if you have the space/budget invite the Out of Town guests. And I wouldn’t invite the cousin’s parents, either. They are already being hosted at the wedding, no one should be offended about the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@futuremrsndl:  I would invite at least the bridal party and your parents/immediate family and any else who you feel is close to you (relative wise–sounds like maybe grandparents for you?).

If I invited every out of town guest half my wedding would be there.

Oh, I am planning on about 25 people.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We invited our bridal party, immediate family, grandparents, the flower girl and her parents, the readers, and our officiant (my godfather).  Plus everyone’s dates.  For us, it ended up around 35 people.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@futuremrsndl:  Typically it’s immediate family, the bridal party, and out of town guests.  If you cannot swing it, then I would cut in this fashion:

1) Cut out the out-of-town guests.  If they ask let them know you had a *small* rehearsal dinner.

2) Cut out non-immediate family that is not in the bridal party.  Invite bride, groom, parents of bridal couple, siblings of bridal couple, and bridal party.  If grandpa is paying he and his spouse are invited.  The cousin in your bridal party can be invited without the rest of her family.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We invited our parents, my one aunt who traveled with my parents and is like a second mom to me, our bridal party and their spouses, our officiant and his wife, and all of our musicians and singers and their spouses.

Because of the very large group we already had, we did not invite our Out of Town guests, especially since our wedding was a semi-destination wedding that was long distance for everyone in both of our families.

Post # 12
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Newbee

I will ask my friend!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t see why we’d involve Out of Town guests in the rehearsal dinner when they’re there for the wedding the following day. I want the rehearsal dinner to be everyone involved in the rehearsal and wedding. Most of my family and half of FI’s are out of town, so it would be like “wedding take 1”. Also it gets more complicated with FI’s parents being divorced and his dad wanting only his side of the family to come, and none of his mom’s or mine. Need to draw the line!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@futuremrsndl:  I had a similar issue where the rehersal dinner was getting out of hand (80-90% of guests are OOT) and we would have had a real issue.

In the end I told my parents (who want to host this) that it will be Immediate Family and Bridal Party + Spouses/Guests only.

This worked out to be:

My Parents, His Parents

My 2 Grandmothers (only grandparents left from both sides)

His Brother + Wife + Daughter (Flower Girl)

My Brother and Sister +1 each

Ring Bearer and his parents

His other Brother + Husband if they come into town early

2 BMs + Husbands

2 Groomsmen + Wives

Total: 24-26, down from the original 150+ when we included Out of Town

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Since you’re paying, I’d invite wedding party, immediate family, & VIP (close friends, grandparents)

We’re also including all Out of Town guests and finding a large enough venue isn’t easy (or cheap!). . .but in-laws are paying and payer gets what they want in my book.

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