Post # 1
My FI’s parents have offered to host the rehearsal dinner. They are from out of town, so we will be going to a restaurant. They have suggested to my fiance that the guest list be kept to me, Fiance, parents/step parent of bride and groom, siblings, and bridal party (without significant others or flower girl/ring bearer). We are having a full Catholic wedding. What about all the other people who will be at the rehearsal? Grandparents? Godparents? Readers? Ushers? Musicians? Priest? Altar servers? etc.
Is it ok to not invite them to a rehearsal dinner and just have a more intimate dinner with me, fi, our parents, siblings and bridal party?
Post # 3
Everyone who is required to be at the rehearsal along with their signifcant other( or parents, in the case of the flower girl and ring bearer) should be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
Technically grandparents are not required to attend the rehearsal but I’ve always seen them invited to the dinner.
Post # 4
Typically, the rehearsal dinner is for everyone that’s in the ceremony so yes, that would include all the other people you listed other than the BMs and Groomsmen. I like the intimate thing, too, but if you’re going by ettiquette, then you are right wanting to include the other people listed because technically, they are part of your wedding. Also, the dates are usually included, as well. Is there a reason they want to keep it that small? Money? Not being able to plan?
I would ask more questions about what they’re thinking for the rehearsal dinner and bring up your concerns. It’s ok to speak up about the dinner, even if they’re hosting. Just discuss it more with your inlaws, they’d probably love the input and help, especially since they’re planning out of town.
If you want an intimate setting and the rehearsal dinner isn’t really it, maybe you could think about the morning after brunch and just invite the bridal party and immediate family.
Post # 5
Yeah, I think basically money is the reason for keeping the guest list small. If we could do it at their house and she was cooking, she would invite EVERYONE! But since it will be at a restaurant, they want to keep the guest list small. Also, I have a HUGE extended family, and all of FI’s guests are Out of Town, so most of those people will be invited to a brunch the day after.
Would it be bad to have an intimate dinner like this and give those who are helping with the rehearsal (readers etc) a gift before they leave?
Post # 7
We kept it to the bridal party, immeadiate family members and those family members who traveled to get to the wedding.