(Closed) Rehearsal dinner woes

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If your Fiance’s parents are paying for it, they technically can invite whoever they want, but I think if you really just want the bridal party and parents, you should just stress that point. Don’t make it into an argument, though, as you have plenty of other things to worry about besides the rehearsal dinner. I can tell you, too, that if you are going somewhere nice, I would not invite children, or at least stress to parents how boring it will be for them. It didn’t even cross my mind when we invited my twin brothers (who are 12). The were terribly bored and after about  45 minutes, they were ready to go!! Rehearsal dinners can run for 2+ hours, so unless they are easily entertained, kids can get pretty fussy! Our groomsman with small children and his wife got a sitter for that very reason.

Post # 4
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My FI’s parents are paying for the rehersal, and they wanted the out of town guests to all be invited(they are all FI’s family). I really didn’t have a problem with this, plus the place we are having it at has a minimum number of people, so having the oot guest involved will help us meet this. Plus, I think it’s always nice to spend a little more time with the guests who are traveling to see you! GL!


Post # 5
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would advocate for including fiance’s immediate family, but perhaps you could suggest they get a sitter so they can stay the whole night and not worry about the little ones.  When I suggested that to my sister (who has an infant and a 4 year old) she was THRILLED.

What we’ve ultimately decided is to have two rehersal-like dinners, one is thrown by the groom’s family and will be wedding party, parents, & grandparents. The night before the wedding, all of our larger families are invited for burgers and dogs at my parents house.  It’s much more casual, not a big deal, etc etc, but it’s an opportunity to include everyone.

Good luck! 


Post # 6
596 posts
Busy bee

I agree with ErinMarguerite – siblings should be included. 

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