(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner Wording

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would just let the people who need to be at the rehearsal know separately – by phone or email – when and where the rehearsal is.  The Rehearsal Dinner invitation can then give only the time and place of the dinner – since it is the invitation to the dinner.  I don’t believe you traditionally issue an "invitation" to the rehearsal; at least I have never seen one.  And if you’re going to publish the place and time of the rehearsal you will get people showing up who don’t need to be there – short of kicking them out, I don’t know what you’re going to do about that. 

Anyway, if you google rehearsal dinner invitations and look at examples online, you never see the actual rehearsal mentioned.

Post # 4
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I’m totally with Suzanno! I don’t think people will invite themselves to the rehearsal dinner/rehearsal…and if they do show up you could say something like (without trying to be sarcastic ;)) "I’m really flattered that you came to our rehearsal, but, unfortunately, I wasn’t expecting you so I couldn’t make arrangements for you to join us for dinner. I’m really sorry about that! Maybe I can just see you tomorrow?"

 I don’t know…but something along the lines of being surprised and "disappointed" they can’t stay 🙂

 Good luck!

Post # 5
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Our invite wording is for the rehearsal dinner, not the rehearsal. We’re including an insert for those actually involved to please show up at XX time and XX place for the rehearsal.

Post # 6
378 posts
Helper bee

I just emailed people who were invited to the rehearsal dinner – basically it’s just wedding party and spouses, so it’s not that huge of a list. I can’t imagine people would invite themselves to a Rehearsal Dinner. You can easily create something and email it out, or even send an e-vite or a different invitation. I don’t think you should say anything in your actual invitations.

Post # 7
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I’m including a separate insert for those attending the rehearsal.

Post # 8
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

we’re spreading the word amongst the wedding party about the rehearsal.  the invites are for the dinner only and are being handled separately.  to make sure everyone is clear on what they need to do, I’ll be sending special wedding party timelines as there are a few pre-wedding things (ladies spa fun, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, day-of appts, etc.). 

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