Post # 1
How can I word a note in the rehearsal dinner invitation saying who actually needs to attend the actual rehearsal?
My fiance thinks it’s rude to add something saying that some people aren’t needed at the rehearsal. I obviously disagree, but that could be because I am at the end of my rope listening to people’s demands…I just don’t care if someone gets offended because honestly, what is there to be offended about? If you aren’t needed at the rehearsal, you shouldn’t attend. Wouldn’t you want to just go to the dinner part anyway?
Anyway, does anyone have any ideas on how to tactfully add a note in the rehearsal dinner invite? Something along the lines of: "Only bridesmaids, groomsmen, and ushers are needed to attend the church rehearsal."?
Post # 3
I would just let the people who need to be at the rehearsal know separately – by phone or email – when and where the rehearsal is. The Rehearsal Dinner invitation can then give only the time and place of the dinner – since it is the invitation to the dinner. I don’t believe you traditionally issue an "invitation" to the rehearsal; at least I have never seen one. And if you’re going to publish the place and time of the rehearsal you will get people showing up who don’t need to be there – short of kicking them out, I don’t know what you’re going to do about that.
Anyway, if you google rehearsal dinner invitations and look at examples online, you never see the actual rehearsal mentioned.
Post # 4
I’m totally with Suzanno! I don’t think people will invite themselves to the rehearsal dinner/rehearsal…and if they do show up you could say something like (without trying to be sarcastic ;)) "I’m really flattered that you came to our rehearsal, but, unfortunately, I wasn’t expecting you so I couldn’t make arrangements for you to join us for dinner. I’m really sorry about that! Maybe I can just see you tomorrow?"
I don’t know…but something along the lines of being surprised and "disappointed" they can’t stay 🙂
Post # 5
Our invite wording is for the rehearsal dinner, not the rehearsal. We’re including an insert for those actually involved to please show up at XX time and XX place for the rehearsal.
Post # 6
I just emailed people who were invited to the rehearsal dinner – basically it’s just wedding party and spouses, so it’s not that huge of a list. I can’t imagine people would invite themselves to a Rehearsal Dinner. You can easily create something and email it out, or even send an e-vite or a different invitation. I don’t think you should say anything in your actual invitations.
Post # 7
I’m including a separate insert for those attending the rehearsal.
Post # 8
we’re spreading the word amongst the wedding party about the rehearsal. the invites are for the dinner only and are being handled separately. to make sure everyone is clear on what they need to do, I’ll be sending special wedding party timelines as there are a few pre-wedding things (ladies spa fun, rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, day-of appts, etc.).
Post # 9
I think my first post is confusing. It’s not a separate invitation to the rehearsal. It’s just an evite to the rehearsal dinner. But, knowing our families, everyone is going to assume they also need to attend the rehearsal as well. I’d like to include wording that lets them know that only the wedding party needs to go to the rehearsal. I’m trying to prevent getting bombarded with phone calls and emails asking where and when the rehearsal is…