- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
First a quick hello I’ve been lurking for a few weeks and finally decided to jump in… I realized you ladies are likely the very best people to ask, so here goes…
We’re getting married January 1, 2011 (1/1/11 – yeah, we’re goofy!) and while our wedding is on a Saturday evening (to give folks time to recoup from New Year’s Eve), we find ourselves in a pickle with planning our rehearsal dinner. 95% of my family lives within an hour of the area, but FI’s family has about 30 people coming in from out of state, so they are the main concern for the rehearsal dinner.
Should we have the rehearsal dinner the night prior as is customary, despite it being NYE? We thought about doig it 2 nights prior, 12/30—but we’re not sure the bulk of his relatives will want to take an additional day off and pay for an additional night at a hotel. We could do it rather early on 12/31 (6:30-7:00) so people can go out and party afterward, but we’re afraid people might expect us to provide some sort of NYE party/event to entertain them and that is neither in the budget nor anywhere close to our wishes as it is also my brother’s birthday and we don’t want to take away from that (anymore than we already are by getting married the following day).
We were thinking about just having the actual bridal party for the rehearsal dinner on 12/31 to keep it small, short & sweet and then having a brunch on Sunday… But we’re planning a honeymoon cruise that leaves Sunday afternoon from another state, so we wouldn’t really be able to attend the brunch since we have to travel.
Also, it is an evening wedding and our families love to party, so we don’t really think people will be up to anything the following day before noon, as our family parties usually don’t wind down until after 4 AM.
What are your thoughts?
- Plan the rehearsal dinner for 12/30 & if out of town guests don’t plan to attend, so be it?
- Plan for 12/31 with bridal party & OOT folks & do it early?
- Plan for 12/31 but only actual wedding party & do it early?
- Throw the morning after brunch & have our parents host in our absence?
- Any other suggestions?
Thanks in advance for any ideas or opinions you might offer