(Closed) Rehearsal dinner…DUTCH TREAT??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
4824 posts
Honey bee

If you have the space, you could simply pick up large premade lasagnas from a local place with salad. Maybe that is less “tacky” than pizza? And equally cheap.

Post # 18
65 posts
Worker bee

Dutch TREAT??? OMG lol. Dont let her do that! It reflects on you as well. Why not do a home dinner party? Seriously, anything but this.

Post # 19
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are having a bon voyage pizza party the night before our wedding. Since our bridal party is mostly Out of Town, it’s a chance for everyone to get together and potentially meet for the first time.

Post # 20
43 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

@abnorris: I hate my inlaws so I will not even begin to address yours, only hatred would spew from me. LOL But spagetti is super cheap. You can probably do it for under 50 dollars. That is with salad, and garlic bread. 

If you have the time, or don’t mind putting in the effort and stress might I add. You can accomplish this a lot cheaper than pizza. First off spagetti noodles are super cheap. I’m not sure the weight, but I would estimate at my local Wal-mart the great value brand is about a dollar for a pound. So if you have about 30 people you can get away with about 6 pounds of noodles. Although I’m from the South and we can eat. Then for sauce you can get the cans for a dollar that are premade or save even more money and get the stewed tomatos, and tomato paste, etc and add some spice and make your own red gravy (sauce) for half the price.

Now for salad lettuce is super cheap get the heads of lettuce not premade and you will save a bundle. I usually just eat what my fiance calls lettuce salads because I just have lettuce, but if you would like to add anything that is up to your preference. 

And for garlic bread grab some loaves of french bread. Slice them, butter them, and sprinkle some garlic powder on them. After bake until crispy, and there you go. Most people keep butter and garlic powder in there home so that is free.

As far as beverages I can’t help on the beer price, but I’m sure you will have something other than that so try punch, tea. I guess it depends on where you are from. I would have no problem just having tea and lemonade. But I know iced tea isn’t a main beverage everywhere. 


I hope I was able to help. And if I was you I would ask your mother in law before she eats to pay for her portion. Spagetti, salad, drink, and bread at a resturant would be no cheaper than about 10 dollars where I am from, so I think it is only fair to charge her and her husband the same so that would be a 20 dollar profit from her meal. Oh and cake or brownies is also super easy to make. And dessert? 5 dollars at least. Even at places like applebee’s and drinks are about 2.50. I would calculate that, but then again I can be a bit mean. 

Post # 21
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow, that’s super Klassy of her to insist on a nice dinner that everyone has to pay for! Pizza is totally fine–honestly, I prefer it. I think I’d rather skip having a rehearsal dinner than make people go dutch. If I were you, I would definitely go with getting a bunch of pizzas and doing something informal! 

Post # 24
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How about a pot luck dinner? or BBQ? Those can be very cost affordable ideas. Asking to bring a pot luck entree is less tacky than asking them to pay for a dinner you inivited them too.



I’ve been to a coworkers wedding where it was hosted at a resturant, they had a simple ceremony, and then all the guests paid their own bill. I think I only gave a card and a small money amount as a gift to that event. I thought it was odd, but I understood the low key attitude to it all. I was offended, just thought it was different.

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