(Closed) Rehearsal Etiquette?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had some who came to rehearsal and others just to dinner. Just let your wedding party decide what is easier for each of them

Post # 4
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What sort of numbers are you looking at here? Because I’d be inclined to invite them to the rehearsal but also offer the option of going directly to the dinner. That way nobody is offended at being left out or feels obliged to go to a rehearsal that doesn’t directly concern them.

Post # 5
46595 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kb7:  You don’t need to invite SO’s to the rehearsal, but you can make it known to your wedding party, that the SO’s are welcome to hang out at the rehearsal or meet you at the dinner venue.

Some of them may choose to  go somewhere for  drink while they wait.

Post # 7
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s difficult because you want the people who need to be at the rehearsal to attend the rehearsal but I suspect I’d not be sending formal invitations out for the rehearsal anyway. Just for the dinner. I’d then speak directly to the rehearsal attendees and make it clear that their SOs are welcome to attend but are equally welcome to just come along to the dinner.


Post # 8
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

The rehearsals I’ve been to are usually pretty quick. I see no reason why SOs couldn’t come and watch.  Or hang out at the dinner venue.

Post # 9
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are inviting SOs to the rehearsal, but it’s not likely they will come.  The weddings my Fiance and I have been in, we never attend the rehearsals together, just the dinner.

Post # 11
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

kb7:  Like others have said, I would give SO’s the option of attending the rehearsal + dinner or just meeting their spouse at the dinner.

And absolutely invite the SO’s! Fiance is in SOOO many weddings and the last one we went to… the groom sent out a text saying “Just a reminder – no spouses/dates are allowed to come to the rehearsal dinner”. Ugh – it was just so rude, especially since most people traveled 2+ hours! My options were to sit alone in a hotel room all night or drive up to the wedding (2 hours) alone the next day. Neither were very great :-\ 

I think the rehearsal’s go by fairly quickly + I’d rather sit and wait for my Fiance then have to drive by myself.

Post # 13
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


kb7:  Just as an FYI as an SO who has attened a rehersal where I wasn’t involved in the wedding, it was actually completely cool on my end.  And this was BEFORE I had the toy of my smart phone.  I hung out in the back talking with another Girlfriend of one of the groosmen. 

Post # 15
7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We just let people know that their SO’s were welcome at the rehearsal and they all brought them because they didn’t want to take two vehicles. The actual rehearsal was under thirty minutes and the SOs just talked amongst themselves.

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