(Closed) Rehearsal – is this appropriate?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
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  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Don’t hold back. Tell us how you really feel about her. 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My wedding and the wedding I was in before that both allowed people involved to bring their significant others.  I don’t see how telling  people not to bring their significant others, people special to them, makes it more special to you.  I personally would probably be offended.  As for the specific girl, I think if you do allow significannt others, you will have plenty of other things going on and wouldn’t have to pay any attention to her.

    Post # 7
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it depends on where everything is taking place – does everyone live locally? In that case I think it’s fine if you don’t invite her, as long as like you said it’s the same for everyone. Just cite size, cost, or role in the wedding. Most of my wedding party is Out of Town so I will be inviting SOs. Since they all have to travel and it’s likely they will travel with their SOs, it seems wrong to make the SOs hang by themselves at the hotel during the rehearsal dinner. But if that’s not the case, then go for it!

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I understand not wanting her specifically to be there, but like you said- it’ll only be an hour or so. Personally, I think its rather rude to not invite an SO to anything unless its a one on one activity. For dinner, for a general party, for a rehearsal dinner, for a wedding. I would be quite offended if I was invited to something and told not to bring my fiance.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Etiquette says that you have to invite your Groomsmen and his wife to the rehearsal dinner.  You could probably say that you don’t want anyone extra at the rehearsal itself.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think it’s rude to not invite the spouse of a person in the wedding party. If that happened to be I would be rather upset. I could understand if it were a non serious relationship, but they’re married.

     

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper

    In my circles, it’s very much the norm to invite the wedding party’s significant others to both the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    bridezilla.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Sorry- the etiquette books say SO of the wedding party are invited to the rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee

    I’ve only been in one wedding, granted, but SOs were a part of the rehearsal and the dinner (they stood to the side during the rehearsal, obvs). I figured that was common practice and anticipated inviting the SOs of our wedding party to the dinner as well?

    If you really don’t like her, I suppose you can disinvite… but honestly I think you’d be creating more drama for yourself than it’s worth. Either steer clear of her the whole night or simply “bean dip” if she says anything rude — i.e., “That’s interesting. Could you pass the bean dip?” or if she makes a rude comment/say you should do something you never would, simply respond, “Why would I want to do that?” and walk away. Don’t instigate, and don’t allow her to get under your skin.

    It’s just one night, and I’m sure you’ll have way too much fun with everyone else to even notice she’s there.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d say that it’s polite to invite SOs along, espcially if they need to travel for your wedding. The couple either needs to drive/fly separate or leave one sitting in the hotel room for the evening…no fun. If everyone is local, though, then maybe you can get away with it to avoid her, but I generally assume SOs are invited along to these types of events.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MissBananaBread:  Etiquette says that you have to invite your Groomsmen and his wife to the rehearsal dinner.  You could probably say that you don’t want anyone extra at the rehearsal itself.

    This!

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