(Closed) rehearsal lunch from HELL–vent

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry that really sucks. ::Hug.:: Maybe it will end up fine? They really do seem like they are being ridiculous, I wish you could just strong arm your in-laws!! Haha. They are pretty ridiculous, I would just try your best to stop caring about the damn thing and just leave it in their not-so-capable hands. Good luck.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

oh man i would be so mad! The wouldn’t let your sisters come! WTH!? Maybe you could send an anonymous letter with the etiquette of who comes to rehearsals and who doesn’t. lol

I guess since it is a lunch maybe you can go to dinner and relax with some of those people that you really want to be around sisters, parents etc..

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh geez…you have every right to be frustrated!!! I would really push back on your siblings not being included….the rehersal dinner/lunch is to honor the BRIDE and GROOM…who is closer to them than their immediate family??

Sadly…I’m not sure what you can really do….leave early to get a head start on your “beauty rest”? 🙂

Post # 7
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sounds like you should ask your fiance to run interference on this and sit down with his parents and take a hard line. I understand them setting a number limit of guests for cost, but to tell you who you should invite to your own rehearsal? That’s ridiculous. Sounds like you would be better off without the stress and just planning it and paying for it yourself to be honest. Have you Fiance tell them that it seems like a lot for them to handle and thet the two of you will take it from here.

Post # 8
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

A smilar thing happened to me when Fiance and I first got engaged and my Future Mother-In-Law was going to give us an engagement party. My Future Mother-In-Law and I don’t always get along, so after a couple days of trying to bargin with her on creating a somewhat equal amount of people from each side I finally told her that if I couldn’t have an equal say in who was invited I simply wasn’t coming and her and her son could entertain her side of the family while my mom and I had our own. After that she dropped the whole subject (and has since decided to voice her crazy opinions elsewhere, but thats another story).

Probably not very helpful, but I would definitely stand up to her now or she’ll forever try to walk all over you.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@EmeraldR: Amen sista! What she said!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Nola: ok, on the financial side of things, I can honestly say from my own past and knowing friends/family with financial difficulties, it CAN be extremely difficult to impossible to save up that much.

that being said, they should’ve just let you guys take it over NOT burden someone else if they couldn’t afford it.  

You and your Fiance need to sit down and discuss this and then have the Fiance AND YOU approach his parents.  You both need to give a united front to him and tell them they’re being unreasonable and disrespectful to not only you two, but your family as well.

so, so sorry you’ve gotta deal with this!!!  hope it works out soon!!!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Nola: Ugh, so sorry!  Can’t blame you for wanting to just say “the heck with it”.  Maybe you can sneak out early and claim the need to rest up for the wedding? 

 

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