Post # 1
I’m a little worried about our rehearsal as our hired officiant basically said it would be a waste of money to spend in her showing up at the rehearsal. I’m worried about her not being there as well as whether to have the string duet we’ve hired. For those with live music, is it expected that they’ll be there? Also, should we give a print out of the ceremony timeline to the musicians and photog? Help, I’m very nervous about this.
Post # 2
I will have a string quartet and they come to the rehearsal. Honestly, I hadn’t even considered it before they brought it up that they attend the rehearsal but I guess it is good for them to see the space. I”m getting married outside. They will also get an idea of what to play when. I don’t think its terrible for them not to be there but definitely puts my mind at ease that they will be there.
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of having the ceremony musicians present for the rehearsal. I don’t think it’s necessary at all 🙂
We spent the extra money to have our officiant present for the rehearsal, because it felt like better planning and made us more comfortable.
Giving your ceremony timeline to your photographers and musicians couldn’t hurt and seems easy! But I feel being a ceremony musician is fairly straightforward. You play for a bit until the processional starts, you play the processional, and then you play the recessional at the end, and maybe you play a bit more.
Post # 4
Did you pay them extra to attend the rehearsal?
Post # 5
My pianist and vocalist were but my violinist wasn’t. She met with them about an hour before the wedding. Actually my original pianist got the stomach bug the day of my wedding and called the vocalist at 4 saying she couldnt make it. My vocalist is a family friend and be amazingly got someone in a two hour period before my wedding at 6. I didn’t find any of this out until after the ceremony.
Post # 6
My organist and vocalist were there and later attended the rehearsal dinner, held in the church hall. They were not paid extra – I’m assuming that their time was a part of their fee. Both were friends from church. The vocalist and his wife were also invited to the wedding; I don’t remember if the organist was?, but I’ve know the vocalist since childhood.
My violinist and trumpeter were not at the rehearsal; they only performed in a professional capacity.
My daughter started singing at weddings when she was 14 years old. It’s more common for her and the musicians – if they rehearsed at all – to do it before the ceremony.
My one daughter’s officiant rehearsed with the bridal party an hour before the ceremony started. She was married on a Sunday night and the officiant was unable to do a Saturday rehearsal. Some churches/venues have wedding coordinators who will do all the walk-throughs, answer questions, etc., so it’s possible, in those cases, they wouldn’t think the officiant has to be there.
Post # 7
I’ve never been to a rehearsal where the officiant did not attend. They are the ones who direct/control the proceedings, tell you what to do when.
On the other hand, I’ve never been to a rehearsal where the musicians attended.
Post # 8
No. I didn’t have to pay extra. The officiant will attend also.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone. Do you think I should pay the $200 extra for the officiant to come to the rehearsal?