(Closed) Reherasal dinner – to have or not to have?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
9255 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Have a “welcome dinner” and invite whomever you want! You can keep it fun / cheap by doing pizza or BBQ. That’s what we’re doing, for exactly the reason you mentioned about wanting to see everyone. 

Post # 4
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You can skip the rehearsal dinner if you’re also skipping a rehearsal.

Post # 5
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we did rehersal dinner– it was two out of 4 groomsmen, fil and step mil, fil’s friend. our pastor and his wife and our pianoist and her husband, my mil and her two sisters and all my bridesmaids and my parents and one sibling and our children. we did korean barbeque at a resturant  it was nice there werent printed invites- text message/phone call invites . had sake bombs and a little speech , we gave gifts to everyone and was good. kids and i left early because we werent gonna stay out late the night before…


i think a pizza dinner/bbq for all the out of towners “welcome dinner” would be a great event and skip the rehearsal dinner– do the rehearsal part though

Post # 7
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree with the previous poster… it sounds maybe like she wants the rehearsal dinner to be quite casual, possibly to eliminate some of the expense?

I think it would be absolutely lovely to have a “welcome BBQ” or “welcome picnic” at a local park, or even in your FIL’s backyard. Can you try to get your BMs involved in planning with your FMIL? You could bring a few card tables from home and cover them with a beautiful tablecloth (just pick up some fabric for cheap at the fabric store!), set out dishes (you could do inexpensive catering or bring a grill and have someone BBQ, or you and the wedding party and your FILs can all bring a few dishes each to provide. You can stake balloons into the ground with golf tees! Dress it up with a bouquet or two of cheap flowers from Safeway in painted bottles. Hang some twinkly lights or wrap them around tree trunks if you use a backyard. You can still send out nice invitations.

Find some inspiration photos, print them out, and meet your FMIL for lunch or coffee and start discussing! If you get excited about something and have ideas to keep it inexpensive and are offering plenty of help in planning, she’ll probably be on board!

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