Post # 1
OK we are having our wedding in Las Vegas but it is NOT a destination wedding. It is a small affair (70 ppl) only closest family and friends. We are in our 40’s and paying for the wedding ourselves and while small it is a very nice wedding with an over $20k budget.
We are not doing a rehersal as we are keeping the ceremony very short and simple but we are debating if we should do a dinner the night before.
Now of the 70 guests 28 are our family (3 of which are highly doubtful to come but being that they are my brothers and sister in law not a choice to not invite them)
21 are close friends that will be travelling from out of state to attend
so would you
1. Have a dinner in a restaurant ($30/pp min) for family only
2. Have a dinner with catered food and paper goods at your home the night before with family only
3. Have a dinner in a restaurant ($30/pp min) for family and out of town guests
4. Have a dinner with catered food and paper goods at your home the night before with family and out of town guests
5. Not have a dinner because you are hosting a lovely wedding the next afternoon and they are going to all see you there
Post # 3
what is your budget?
if the backyard affair for everyone is affordable, i would go for that. it’s nice to be able to talk to people who traveled to see you on a day other than your wedding. if you can’t afford it though, it’s not a problem.
Post # 4
Heck we have already spent $22000 what is another few hundred – I am guessing the catered affair will run closer to $20 a person but it means our house has to be spotless (we keep it clean but still) and we have to deal with the shindig in our house the night before 🙁 We thought of asking a friend to host it at their home with us footing the bill and a thank you gift but then that runs it back up to the original restaurant price and it means we have to invite the locals too which seems weird
Post # 5
I would not be able to handle the stress of tons of people in my house the night before my wedding. Since you are not requiring anyone to attend a rehersal you are under no obligation to feed them or host them for an additional gathering. But.. as some one said above it is nice to have the opportunity to spend time with people the night before the wedding. What if you just sort of let people know that you would be heading out to ABC restaurant the night before and people are welcome to join you (on their own dime). I think that’s a great compromise for your situation.
Post # 6
WE have a similar situation… we are having a Sunday wedding (memorial day weekend) it is a destination for some and have about 75-100 people coming up the night before. We do not have a wedding party so we are not having a formal rehearsal and did not want to have a second wedding reception the night before nor could we afford one. So We are having a casual welcome dinner the night before with pizza, salads, bread,beer & wine and then a smore’s bonfire for dessert. It was the most economical way to include everyone!