Post # 1
So our rehersal dinner is at a Mexican restuarant, which people would assume to be pretty casual, however the restaurant is a pretty upscale. How can I convey that jeans and tennis shoes will not be appropriate? I plan to send an invitation, but I don’t want to offend people-mainly the guys in my fiances side that may lack the style that would be appropriate for this place. Jeans would be appropriate, however a nice dress shirt and shoes would be the best. Any creative thoughts?
Post # 3
For stuff like this, I would just have the guy casually mention it to eachother. Tell your BM’s the deal, and then have them quietly/gently spread the word about rehersal dinner attire.
I think of this like wedding gift registries (sp?). It was definetely one of my jobs in my bf’s wedding to gently pass along registry information- and heavens knows women love to talk about “what are you wearing to the ________ event?”
Post # 4
Not sure if etiquette would like: but just a suggestion maybe putting business casual or dress to impress on the invites to get across the point of being dressed nicer.
I also agree with word of mouth! It usually works the best since people don’t always read (and remember) the invitations.
Post # 5
If you don’t want to explicitely state the dress code, perhapes you could write something like “The rehearsal dinner will be at <name of restaurant>, an upscale Mexican restaurant”? or <name of restaurant>, an upscale restaurant serving mexican cuisine?
Post # 6
We are having a more laid back rehearsal dinner, but not sloppy. It is a catered event at a local hotel, but I didn’t want people showing up in jeans. I put on the invitations that dress was resort casual. (a term I heard used to describe this type of dress) and then on the emails sent to the wedding party and to those others who would be attending the rehearsal dinner, I put in parenthesis that Fiance would be wearing dockers and a collared golf shirt and I was either wearing a dress or dressy capris and a twin set). That seemed to clear up any confusion rather quickly.
Post # 7
I agree with the word of mouth thing (everyone i know is always “dude, what shoudl i wear?” and whatnot)
but i just wanted to say YUM mexican food and margaritas. My fave
Post # 8
Defiitely word of mouth. Especially because guests might feel really uncomfortable if they show up casual not knowing it should have been a bit more upscale.
Also keep in mind you won’t convince everyone to dress the way you’re hoping! My FI’s grandmother is dead set on wearing grandma pants and tennis shoes to our wedding- which is very formal- because thats what she’s most comfortable in and no one can convince her otherwise. Not much we can do except be happy she’s going to celebrate with us 🙂
Post # 9
We put “Dress to Impress” on our rehearsal dinner invites and then also followed up with word of mouth.
Post # 10
i like “dress to impress”, it will make people confident that they arent the only one dressed up, they will have a sense that everyone else attending will be dressed too.
Post # 11
Thanks girls, I think I have some good ideas now!